She never wants sex anymore

We are both 20 year old students who spend most of our time in class and at work. I'm pretty sure our relationship status is good because she seems to bring up the future quite a bit - having a family, a house, etc. Both generally pretty "lovey dovey" towards each other.

The thing is, she never wants sex anymore. Whenever I come onto her she says that she is tired, which she may very well be with all of the work and school. However, I would like sex sometimes... I think that it's an important aspect of relationships. Lately she has been a little stressed and this might be another contribution to the no sex. I don't think that she is cheating on me.

How can I get the spark back? Is she just not sexually attracted to me anymore or is it just all the busyness and stress?

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Originally Posted by whattheheck [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

We are both 20 year old students who spend most of our time in class and at work. I'm pretty sure our relationship status is good because she seems to bring up the future quite a bit - having a family, a house, etc. Both generally pretty "lovey dovey" towards each other.

The thing is, she never wants sex anymore. Whenever I come onto her she says that she is tired, which she may very well be with all of the work and school. However, I would like sex sometimes... I think that it's an important aspect of relationships. Lately she has been a little stressed and this might be another contribution to the no sex. I don't think that she is cheating on me.

How can I get the spark back? Is she just not sexually attracted to me anymore or is it just all the busyness and stress?

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There's no way to put this lightly.

When you want something, you're open to receiving it. If sex was as good for her as it is for you, she'd be wanting it just as much, if not more, than you.

Do you go down on her or are you under the impression that intercourse is satisfying enough?

This is likely a difference in libido. Unfortunately, it can't be changed. I'd be looking to move on, if it's a big issue for you.

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Originally Posted by doppelmakemelol [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

There's no way to put this lightly.

When you want something, you're open to receiving it. If sex was as good for her as it is for you, she'd be wanting it just as much, if not more, than you.

Do you go down on her or are you under the impression that intercourse is satisfying enough?

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OP, listen to him.

are you waiting until it is really late in the evening? try to initiate sex earlier before she gets sleepy.

Is she taking birth control pills or anti-depressants? Both contribute to lowered libido. If she's not taking either one, I agree that your technique may need improvement. Girls who orgasm usually love sex.

You have sex before,right?Stress maybe make her no energy to so it,you should talk with her,no guess.

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I'm pretty sure our relationship status is good because she seems to bring up the future quite a bit - having a family, a house, etc....

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Oh well yeah....she will of course want the wedding bells and ring....screw you and what you want!! lmao

If you like sex, I wouldn't be considering a future with this woman.

If she has a low libido, imagine life with her in 10 years.

Stress at her age?? If she gets easily stressed, imagine a life with her and if you have 3 kids, bills to pay, one loses a job, and other issues that crop up in every day life...

I'd run, run, run......the early signs of a marriage without sex is plain on the cards.

On the offchance I'm wrong and this is a case of she lost 'sexual' attraction to you...she won't get that attraction back and no matter what you do to try to please her sexually!
I've been in that situation and it got worse, not better!!

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Originally Posted by xxazurexx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Oh well yeah....she will of course want the wedding bells and ring....screw you and what you want!! lmao

If you like sex, I wouldn't be considering a future with this woman.

If she has a low libido, imagine life with her in 10 years.

Stress at her age?? If she gets easily stressed, imagine a life with her and if you have 3 kids, bills to pay, one loses a job, and other issues that crop up in every day life...

I'd run, run, run......the early signs of a marriage without sex is plain on the cards.

On the offchance I'm wrong and this is a case of she lost 'sexual' attraction to you...she won't get that attraction back and no matter what you do to try to please her sexually!
I've been in that situation and it got worse, not better!!

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Listen to the woman, she knows whereof she speaks.