Things Starting To Fall Apart...Advice Needed
I've been dating this girl for 4 months. The good certainly outweighs the bad, however, recently she has mentioned that she is unsure if she still wants to be together...on multiple occassions. It seems as though she doesn't want to, but can't find it in her to fully let go.
Last night she got upset because I was not happy about going to a bonfire with her and her friends. It was cold, boring, and just not exciting. The conversations were very immature as well. I always work on Sunday mornings, but I took off today in hopes of going out to a bar or the like last night with my gf and her friends. Well, that didn't happen, her friends chose to have the bonfire instead. This was not how I wanted to spend my night off, and I was visibly not thrilled to be there. My gf became very pissed off at this. Had it been my normal Saturday night where I have to work Sunday morning, I wouldn't have had an issue...but like I said I used hard earned vacation time to take off. My gf said that I could leave, and go out with my friends. My friends often need a few days in advance in order to set up a night out, and so I explained to my gf that last minute plans with my friends weren't possible, and that I wanted to spend my night off with her.
She never seems to appreciate anything. Rarely is there any reciprocation of nice gestures or affection. And it's not even like I do things for her to the point of where it's too much. That's not the case. This may stem from the fact that her parents are non-affecionate towards each other, and this is what she carries into her relationship. I voiced this to her, and she got mad and replied with with her saying she's not sure if she wants to be together. We ended up talking it out, and things went back to normal.
So I let things subside today after her not being thrilled about me not wanting to be at the bonfire. I asked her if she wants to be together, and she sighed and said yes...and then it changes to she doesn't know for sure and that she would call me back after work. Should I avoid her phone call when she calls later this evening, and wait to talk to her until tomorrow? Make her think a little bit...Or will that not solve anything?
Furthermore, I asked my gf's mother if she could go on a 4 day vacation with me in April. Her mother said absolutely not, not unless she (gf's mother) could go. She's just very controlling, and my gf always has to check in with her mother and run any and all plans by her mother. My gf is 23! I'm 24...live on my own, full time job, own place, etc.
My gf is also friends with her ex's, and we had an issue of where she wanted to exchange presents with an ex back at Christmas time.
She is really showing that she doesn't care anymore. I don't want the relationship to end, but I don't want to come across desperate to save it. What is your input to my situation?
