Ex contacting me, currently in relationship should I stay or go?
Ok, so let me just try to break down my situation here real fast.
I've been with the girl I'm with now for just over two years. She's a good girl, treats me right, as I do her. She's in college works and has an internship to further heer career. Shes younger than me by 5 years, more or less. I'm about to turn 26 in april and she's just turned 20 in november. Now.. Everything between me and her is pretty good. We don't live together yet nor do we have any short term plans for any other kind of serious commitment.
Now to the meat of the problem. My ex wife, whom I dated on and off for about five years and was married to for one year has started to contact me. It should be a no brainer. I mean this girl has literally nothing going for her. She's actually currently incarcerated. She's been mailing me from jail. I've gotten numerous cards, letters, and even pictures to which I've only written back twice.
She's 27. She s never held down a job and is only now getting her g.e.d. while in jail. She had children before we met and lost custody of them. We had a daughter together who we agreed to give up for adoption and she actually went into jail pregnant by the man she cheated on me with. Which is why we split. It gets very complex and I'm open to answer any questions anyone might have to fill in the gaps but to make it short,
basically she cheated on me once with this guy, while I was off in the army and I forgave her and took her back, while she was pregnant. She, supposedly, had a one night stand with him and ended up prego. We tried to make it work, and I treated her new daughter like she was mine, but things got progressively worse. We had heated arguments and she started getting violent. It kept happening and to be honest on a few occasions which I'm not at all proud of I hit her back.
Still we tried to make it work and she became pregnant with my child. A few months later she left me for another man, didn't guy than the one night stand guy. They had a terrible relationship as well from what I understand and he was more the abusive one in this instance. So they break up and she ends up having yet another one night stand with the same guy and gets knocked up again. This guy had no intent of taking care of his cistern apparently and she eba up having to steal food for herself because he won't help her even though she's pregnant with his child.
So she gets locked up and had been in for two years. While I have just moved on. Now like I said, should be a no brainer right? Except for... I love her, deeply. She was my wife, even if for only a brief time, and we have a long history together. She sais she's changed. Apparently she's been attending counseling, anger management, and parenting classes and she wants another try. I love the girl I'm with but, I don't know how to explain it, even though my family hates my ex and I know it could end very badly my heart does gymnastics whenever I think about her, my ex that is.
My girl now is great, but the feeling... although there, isn't the same. What should I do? Should I follow my heart and go back to the bad girl who makes me feel so good or should I play it safe and settle for the good girl who just makes me feel alright? Please help.
