Originally Posted by
vertical_sky
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It's all right to express your feelings to him. The thing to keep in mind is timing and making sure you're not blaming him.
Timing is really key in communication. First, wait until he contacts you... The time to discuss your feelings is NOT when he's pulling away, but when he's springing back.
Next, express your feelings directly but without making him responsible. Say something like," I'm happy to hear from you. I really appreciate the time we have together. Sometimes I know you need some time to yourself so you can feel more comfortable. When you need space, could you please reassure me that you care about me and will come back? Otherwise, I feel hurt, as if I've done something wrong to drive you away."
Keep it direct, short, and as loving a tone as possible. By working together, you can both get what you want... He can have the space to be himself, and you can have the reassurance of his feelings for you.