Do I call it quits or keep hope?
So I've been friends with this girl for about 3.5 years, For about 9 months now we've been talking and shes really become one of my favorite people in the entire world. About 2 months ago we started dating, she made it clear from the get go that she was worried I liked her a lot more than she liked me and I would end up hurt, after basically dating but refusing to call it that for about 4 weeks she let me take her out for a "first date." We both had a really great time and things have been good since.
Now about 2 months later she says that were "dating" but thats all, she doesn't want to be exclusive, shes not a relationship type person, and she doesn't see this going anywhere. Im behind the times and/or old fashioned I guess but the whole stage of dating multiple people and not being exclusive is a huge problem for me, but she says shes not seeing anyone else at the time and currently has no desire to. She does sleep over at her guy friends house sometiems which kind of bothers me, but they've been friends a long time and I know nothing is going on but still it feels weird, maybe im just crazy.
So I guess im wondering if anyone out there can give me the boost I need to continue with this?? We are really great friends, I don't want to risk all of that for nothing, plus we have been keeping a secret at work, all the tip toeing around is ok but again if its for nothing in the end then what for? Lastly, of course, if its going to end, its going to be easier on both of us to do it now rather than down the road.
Lastly, just to offer the things that make me keep hope. She is definitely the type of person that just has a problem with tags. For example, when we were dating, constantly going out, kissing, holding hands in public, etc etc etc she was ok with and enjoyed all of that, but if anyone asked if we were dating just the putting of the tag on it really freaks her out. So I feel like maybe a relationship is in the future shes just afraid to call it that? Also, I know her very well and I know for sure she likes me a lot- I truly believe even more than she admits, probably even to herself. And I know she trusts me more than any person in the world. Another thing, is she sometimes talks about the future and its involves us being together, just something like one time she said it'd be funny to no tell people at work until like the 3 year mark, and I just find it odd for someone who truly is disinterested in relationships to think that way?
In conclusion, theres probably a few points to either side that I've forgotten to write here, but basically I think she likes me a lot, has very deep feelings for me, and I think she actually finds herself wanting a relationship with me but that scares her and so she is trying to run me off incase it wouldn't work out, she is trying to protect one or both of us now rather than someone getting hurt down the road. So should I just call it quits and keep one of my best friends in the world, or does it sound like it is worth the risk to keep moving forward, I feel like its way too soon at only the 2 month mark to be having questions like this also, but its really just been weighing on my mind so heavily and stressingme out so much, I need to just talk about it with you all :) so if your answer is simply, give it some more time then re-evaluate I would understand that also :) Thx in advance, sorry im longwinded