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should i be upset that my fiance is looking at teen porn? I mean im sure all these girls are "18" but they look like they are 15. I dont mind the fact that he looks at porn, i like to as well. But they just look really young, and its a big turnoff for me. He looks at normal porn too, with women who look like they are in their 20's, but i have seen many websites in his history that are "tiny teen" sites. Should I be upset?? My fiance is 29.
You can be upset about it if you like.
I personally don't like anything that looks too young, but young is definatly a draw at times.
Porn is a touchy subject with a lot of women. It's just entertainment and guys like a quick release. BUT I know what you are trying to get at here....you think maybe he's a pedophile of some kind. If he doesn't have a history of molesting, or hitting on teenage girls then you have nothing to worry about. Men like to dominate sexually and this is a way to have that fantasy without getting arrested. Now I would worry about the amount of porn being watched, and if he is paying for it, watches it at work or with all of his free time, then you have an addict on your hands. You must talk to him about this in a calm factual manner. Show your concern that he might have a problem. This issue needs to be cleared up. Oh and tell him that clearing the search history isn't the answer......there are other ways to find out.
I seriously doubt they all look like 15, unless he is looking at amateur cam stuff in which they likely are 15.
Perhaps they try to look young, but I've seen a lot of young porn and they rarely look 15.
However, it shouldn't worry you. Perhaps he prefers girls that look that young, but does that really matter? Isn't the important issue his actions here? If he loves you and is loyal and wouldn't actually touch girls that age then it is no more than a mere fantasy.
As an extra point, if he likes girls that look 15, that would make him a hebephile at most. Quite a difference from being a pedophile, and that term is what might worry you. A hebephile issomeone who find themself attracted to pubescent girls.
And even if he is a hebephile (which I am as well), it doesn't make him any less loyal, nor does it make him a sick pervert that likes to rape kids, and it certainly doesn't mean he doesn't think you are attractive.
i think teen porn is just something that your fiance 'like', maybe it's more like hobby for him, but yes you should get upset coz not every hobbies are good
I think smackie was getting at something with the dominance thing.
I had a period of time where I was into "Teen Porn"
It was more the idea of picking those tiny little girls up and carrying them around while banging them.
As well as total control over what you can make them do sexually.
Try taking a Sub role in the bedroom once. It might just turn out to be some of the best sex you'll ever have with him.
thanks guys, i am just over-thinking this. You made me feel much better :) there is no doubt in my mind that he loves me and I know for a fact he is very attracted to me.
I dont think looking at teen porn is good sometimes it leads to pedophile fantasies
ill tell you at the old place where i was living there was a man who was molesting kids
and took his hard drive put it in the dish washer
the police could still get evidence from HD your ip address is out there would not advise it
Bullshit.Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetkissesforu [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
First, 18 is teen porn too. How do big boobed well shaped girls lead to pedophilic fantasies?
Second, liking pubescent girls isn't even pedophilia, it's hebephilia. Ther's a huge difference between liking 14 year olds and liking 6 year olds.
Third, even for people with fantasies about kids doesn't mean they will actually molest kids or even seriously consider molesting a kid. There's such a thing as self-control. And plenty of pedophiles/hebephiles have this.
Fourth, nothing even says he was actually looking at illegal porn. Just at porn with girls that look young. As far as I know that's still not illegal.
phht, how is that any different than rape fantasies?Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetkissesforu [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Perfectly normal, healthy people can have some pretty bizarre/extreme fantasies. Doesn't mean it's going to lead into unhealthy behaviors.
Smichelle, put on a tight white shirt, short pleated skirt and put your hair in pigtails and give him a damn good night of action. ;)
People have all sorts of different fantasies and attractions. Some people are attracted to certain racial types. Some people are attracted to women of a certain height. And peoples' fantasies are sometimes even more bizarre. But, and this is an important factor that others have mentioned as well, a person's actions are very different from their thoughts. If he has certain physical traits that attract him, as long as he doesn't limit himself to those traits at the expense of potentially good relationships, then you should be okay. And if he has certain fantasies that do not keep him from having a healthy physical relationship with you, then you are probably good.
So, in general, his porn habits are most likely not a concern unless they are coupled with other concerning actions.
Good luck.