Hi everybody, first of all thanks for your help. I really truly appreciate it. Secondly I'll try as much as I can to make my story as short as possible. I'm not saying I'll succeed but I sure will try =)
Here's my situation.
In January I got to meet a wonderful girl and we instantly clicked. You know what I'm talking about, we had the same habits, the same taste, the same goals, we were following the same formation. The relationship seemed kind of perfect, we had lots in common, I got accepted by her friends who love me, she got accepted by mine who love her. I met her family, she met mine. It really seemed perfect. I wasn't even going through the whole "is this going to fast?" reflection because everything was going so beautifully and it was completely natural.
As you probably guessed it all was too good to be true. About a month in the relationship she suddendly changed because she got text from her ex that kind of disturbed her. She said that she hadn't completely forgotten him even though they had been broken up for 7 months (he was a jerk that cheated on her numerous times and because of whom she suffered and cried a lot)so she said that she needed time to think about what she wanted and stuff and that she couldn't be with someone while she was going through that phase. I was suprised and dissapointed because up to that point I had been, without bragging (she even told me), the perfect boyfriend. She even said that had that text come 2 weeks later it wouldn't have had that effect.
Being insanely in love with her I tried to keep her by asking her to give me a chance to make her forget him but she said no, that she needed time and space. So we broke up.
Since then she has been very cold, doesn't talk to me nor answer the few texts I had sent her. It is very hard for me because I really don't know how to behave.
I did a lot of things for her but in secret not to disturb her. For example I had dedicated her a poem (Pablo Neruda Soneto 17) while we were together and since she left me, every morning I write this poem on a sheet of paper, put it in an enveloppe and send it to her without putting a stamp. Every night while we were going out I wrote the lyrics of a love song that made me thing of her in a notebook, I kept doing that even after she left me. I gave up smoking for her and the money I would spend on my daily pack I gave it, in her name, to the red cross. Her grand-mother, that I met and liked, has cancer and is dying so I anonymously send her flowers every week. She lives and hour away from me, every week I go over there and put a warm coffee and muffin in front of her door for her breakfast. And a lot of other stuff that she has no idea about.
Here comes my question.
In 10 days I will meet her for a cup of coffee because I will be in her town for a seminar, how should I behave?
What should I talk about? Should I ask her where she is at in her reflection? Should I ask if she has being seeing other guys or if she got back together with her ex? Should I mention all those things I did for her?
Thank you a million for your help
