He wants to be with me but he doesn't.

My boyfriend and I had been friends for over 5 years and then we ended up in a relationship together. He is my roommate

Things were going along fine until he started to have doubts.
He told me he isn't sure what he wants.
It is always wise to listen to what a man says and does.
Some days he is very affectionate and some days he is a dick.
He won't publicly announce our relationship and this bothers me.
I have told him this and he simply does not log into his social networks and still considers himself my boyfriend.

Wouldn't a man want to show off someone he loves? Wouldn't he want to be with them?


The answer scares me. I feel as if I already know it but I'd like to believe I can give this relationship a chance.

He's keeping you on the DL. I'm guessing he either has somebody else, or he's embarrassed by his relationship with you for some reason, spurious or not.

What makes you think he'd suddenly change after FIVE years?

He is keeping me on the DL.

He has a crush on this girl who lives in another province and doesn't give him the time of day. (I knew this when we were friends)

He says he isn't sure what he wants but I think he wants to run off with her.

I should end this relationship and let him see how life is without me in it. It is hard to see his pained face when I say I want to end it. It seems he both wants to be with me and does not.

I know if that girl said yes he'd dump me in a heartbeat.

We've been friends for 5 years, we haven't dated for 5 years. I haven't had the chance to observe him in a relationship with another Woman and we have only been dating for over a month.

Loooollll, you made ppl thnk 5 years, a month is Nothing. Probably end it if he isn't sure about you before you get hurt more :-), it's only been a month n he isn't sure is a bad sign. I think so btw.

The sexual tension was there, you both got together....now it's gone and he has lost interst. It would be best to cut him loose and just stick it out as friends, because he isn't that emotionally into you like you are with him.