Do I tell him to stop or should I just let it keep going through the pain?

Hello there,
Well, basically last night my boyfriend and I were in bed together, holding each other, kissing and just enjoying each other presance. We are both virgins and have not done alot of 'stuff' due to the fact we have 3-4 year age gap and we are only teens still.
Anyway, last night we went alitte further and he touched the inside of my bra. He asked me if I was sure and everything, I was pretty sure I wanted him to do it - i don't have any regrets there. More onto the story he started to touch, suck and play with y nipples all night. At the most, he sucked on them for 30mins at one point, and that when they started hurting.
Even in the morning when he wanted to do it again, they hurt.
After he went home, I had a look and parts of my nipple are red and not very pretty. Not to mension they still hurt alittle.

Would should I do? Is there anything I can do to make the pain and redness stop?
And also, I find it incredibly hard to tell him to stop, the moment would die and I know he would feel like a bad lover...

Thank you. <3

I don't know whether you're expecting advice from the ladies, but let me tell you first that I'm a guy.

IMO, these intimate stuffs are meant to be enjoyed. Sometimes things can get pretty heated and start getting rough. But if it's starting to hurt, just hint it to him, I'm sure he'll get it. I mean the both of you are new, so he's probably inexperienced. If you don't give him any feedback, he'll probably put you through the same thing. I don't know.. Just go like 'be gentle babe' or something.. Or like say it in a raspy voice like 'oh not so hard.'

Communication - he's probably doing your nipples because that's the only taboo bit of your body he's going to get. I remember when I was 17 and 'up top' feeling was the only thing I got. So I probably over compensated.

If it hurts you then it's not a good thing... so tell him your feelings and be honest with him and he will understand.

You are in your teens and at this age your parts will grow. You can tell your boyfriend not be so harsh. If you want you can show it to him so that he can understand your problem. You can also have a check up for this so that you don't have any problem in future. I'm sure your boyfriend will understand and will stay with you. If he doesn't then he is not fit for you.

If it starts hurting you, then tell him it feels nice but you are starting to get sore. Heck, if my gf was on my nipple for 30 minutes, I'd be sore too! If you are having pain you have the right to ask him to stop. Just be sensitive to his feelings and tell him you are sore.

Also, boys don't know that (your) raging hormones can make breasts sore and sensitive. Just explain this to him. Clear communication is very important in any relationship.

Just tell him, it's not him, it's that you are sore, and you enjoyed what he was doing. But you have to take a break. Boys at this age are very sensitive to being rejected. Can you blame them? They get rejected all the time. Be reassuring to him.

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Originally Posted by bulrush [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Boys at this age are very sensitive to being rejected. Can you blame them? They get rejected all the time. Be reassuring to him.

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I can't stop laughing at this statement because of its extreme true-ness.

Don't continue with anything that hurts. Just tell him. Communication is very important and I'm sure he would feel awful if he found out that he was hurting you and you never said anything. He should appreciate the feedback, because I'm sure he wants to make you feel good.

Others have covered the bases pretty well on what to do. Tell him to be a little more gentle. As for helping your nipples feel better now. They are probably chapped and a little raw. Put some neosporin on them. It will help them heal faster.

One thing I am finding a little disturbing...

You say you're both still in your teens, but there's 3-4 years age difference. Usually that means that the boy is older than the girl, so I'm going to make that assumption... also, there's a definite age difference, and if it were 3 years, you'd say so. I'm guessing that he's 19 and you're 15, and I don't know about England, but here in the U.S., that's just not alright.

If it hurts, be open in your communication. Tell him so. If he's not a total piece of garbage, he does NOT want to hurt you.