Is he only interested in sex?
okay so, we're in our 2nd year of college/sixth form, and me and this guy have sort of been friends for the last year i guess, but also flirty aswell. we've danced together at parties but thats the most thats ever happened. i told him a couple of months ago (because of rumours id heard about him trying to lose his virginity, cos his friends keep pressuring him. and also rumours that he was planning on 'shagging' me or this other girl - lets call her becky) that i wasnt interested in the 'fun' side of things, and also the fact that i felt like a '2nd best' and a 'back-up' option, and that i wanted me and him to just be friends. and that was that for a while. but one point he did make to one of my female friends was that he didn't understand why i'd just take other people's words for it, and believe what they said. he denied that i was put 2nd place etc. but i told him how i felt, and really wanted to just leave it. and so that was that.
now just the other day, he text me asking if i still wanted to just be friends, or could you see anything more happening. i asked him what he meant by 'more' and he said, would you want anything more than just a dance. i then told him straight up, that if he is just looking for sex then i am not that girl, because it means more to me than that, so you may want to look elsewhere. he then replied saying, he is not that guy either, he's not just gonna have sex with someone random - he needs to feel for the girl, and that he knew i wouldnt just 'give it up' cos im not like that. and he then asked if i actually like him, or is he just chasing after something unattainable. i told him i kind of do (cos i do) but in a way that didnt make me appear weak, and he told me the feeling was mutual.
so yeah, do you think he really does just want sex? or is maybe interested in me, personally? because i guess the fact that his own friends are saying he just wants sex/no relationships, is where i become a bit shady.