Break up is final, need some encouragement
Hi everyone, One month ago my gf broke up with me after 7 months and a month living together. She claims she needs to find herself and doesn't know where her life is going. From a mutual friend 2 weeks after the break up I found out that she made out with someone when she went home for the weekend, just 2 days after we came back from a couples vacation. The vacation went awesome, was very intimate and romantic. One week after this happening she left to go home 1 hour away and broke off the relationship.
I called and asked her about it and she said that she did make out with some one, and didn't tell me because she didn't want to hurt me. She said that the break up was going to happen anyway because she's so lost in life right now. She also said that she made out wit this kid because she is having low self esteem issues and has a bad self concept( even though she is very sexy and has a lot going for her.)
I told her that the trust is gone and will take along time for me to build it back up if ever, but left like a gentleman and said in the future whether it be 10 months or 10 years if she ever has feelings that we can work again to call me, but she might not like my answer because I might have already of found someone new and be really happy. She left by saying that she does love me and isn't looking for a relationship and just needs time to be single because she doesn't have a lot of love to give right now, and needs to work on herself by being alone.
We had a really good relationship up until that weekend and got along great and had lots of future plans together. I'm completely heart broken because I don't date a lot and don't let a ton of people into my life, and really thought that I had found the one to at least start a life together with(we are 24 and 23 years old).
My questions are do girls really look for other guys when they're having self esteem issues?(Also I was a really good bf, treated her really well, always told her how beautiful she was, lots of affection, and a good sex life.) If she ever does come back, can some one truly change their cheating ways? I mean to do that 2 days after a really intimate romantic vacation to me is really whacked. And can you really love someone enough to move in with them with all these future plans and less than 4 weeks later(and a great couples vacation) move out and dump them? Did she ever love me at all?
Also I am thinking like she isn't ever going to come back and am moving on and now want to start dating again, but still have her on my mind a lot. Can getting back into the dating scene help get her off my mind and regain my self confidence which is shattered? I know a lot of people say to work on yourself, but I honestly don't have a ton to work on, I know I was an awesome boyfriend and do have a few things to fix with myself but nothing major.
Also does the pain of being cheated on ever go away? I loved this girl with all my heart and feel so disrespected by her doing that.(Also the kid she made out with, well they hung out a couple more times, before her kicking him to the curb and calling him out in front of a bunch of her friends, so they are not anything and that kid now hates her.)
Thanks a lot everyone for any info, again i'm completely dumbfounded how someone I trusted with my life can do this and am just looking to recover.