Frustrated with 'friend' ... Opinions please
So met someone approximately 9 months ago. We met while she was in a pretty big fight/break with her longtime (4 years?) bf. I thought it was going somewhere, but figured out apparently it wasn't for her after about a month. I was 'more like a brother.' Whatever. It sucked, but it was what it was.
But she continued to want to talk to me. Daily/near daily text, etc. Eventually I stopped answering them for about a month or two. She made her choice to me. Then a few months back, I get a "i feel like we never talk anymore." So we talk or whatever. Largely doesn't mean much to me anymore, but the conversation is still nice she's still attractive so we talk.
Well then we get on this roll. And we talk all the time... Then finally I ask her if she wants to go somewhere with me again, which I was avoiding doing, but we went to lunch, nothing major. Except this lasted about 3 hours, into the time she was supposed to be meeting with her bf. I say "you would never go anywhere with me after the first few weeks after we first met." she responds "I've changed since then."
So then these text are all the time still, then we start getting phone calls, for hours at a time about once a week for the last few weeks. I'm trying my darndest to not think anything of it because she's just a flirty girl. I tell her all the time she makes my life difficult.
Then we get to tonight. Talking online. We get on the topic of eyes, and she proceeds to tell me about how she's always loved my eyes and that they are 'pretty.' And that the body and things like that just never really did it for her, it was eyes and smile. I jokingly said, well heck I win at those two. She says 'yes you do, you're eyes and smile are great.' Then proceeds to tell me that 'I really just like average figured guys, not too skinny, not too muscular.' Which happens to be like me. And I'm finally like, "you need to be careful about what you say, some people might mistake that for you thinking something that you don't." She says"like what? that I want to date you?" And i said I didn't say it you did... she says "don't get any crazy ideas" I say "no I'm too smart for that" she says "I wonder how smart you are sometimes... sometimes you act more blonde than me." then I say "whats that mean" and she changes the subject.
Usually I would think this chick was definitely into me, especially after that conversation tonight. But she's disappointed me once already, and she claims to care a lot about her current bf, despite the fact that she complains to me about him about once a week. But she did just put up a new pic of them with some kinda caption 'by your side' or something like that.
I just want to know what she thinks, and if I'm wasting my time. I thoroughly believe there would be something with us, but I think she's afraid that she won't get another relationship like the one she has with the current bf. But I really just want to know what she thinks so I can either get on with it or forget it. It's driving me crazy trying to anticipate whether she is 'unintentionally' being flirty or dropping hints.
Opinions on what I should do? If this doesn't make the situation clear then let me know I'll elaborate more.
