Hey everyone- Ok here's my story so far:
I currently work in Afghanistan as a construction contractor so I am based here the majority of the here with getting home every 3-6 months... Around one year ago I feel I started to see a co-worker- we had to keep it a secret from the bosses As I was office staff and he was out in the construction yard- we quickly feel in love- spending every minute we could with each other.. 3 months passed and he had to go on his Leave back to his home- but he would only be gone for 3 weeks - However the company we were working for decided to close its doors and was not bringing staff back- This news devastated me...I let him know the situation and then we both procedded to look for new jobs- 4 months passed - we had spoken everyday while we were apart- still very much in love... We both got jobs back in Afghanistan- On New Years Day reunited- Our love grew from that day- with our ups and downs like all couples.. The down points were rumours and suspecions of a wife back in his own country- I asked and asked with the same Answer No I am not married Believe me, I love you Trust me... I love him too much not to believe him.... 6 months on- I go to where he lives unexpected to find him on the webcam with yup you guessed it- His wife... Deep Down I always knew this was a fact... i know from that point I should have Said 'Go F yourself BYE!! But I cannot.. I love him and want a life with him... He has told me That he loves me - does want to be with me but how to just throw a marriage away ?? I never begged him or said she wasnt right etc.. for him - I have just said Make a Choice !!
Deep Down I want him to choose me! Leave her (I am sure she is lovley and I dont want to see her hurt either) he see's me basically sees me 11 months out of the year and 3 weeks with her ?!?!
Also He is froma country where status and money if a very important way of life there...
I am being stupid too wait and see who he picks ? Should I let him go- Even tho it will break my heart but that might happen anyways ?
Help?!
