First love

Is it normal to never get over your first love? I saw a picture of him today over facebook feed and then spent 45 minutes panicking over nothing. His seductive glance and confident manner is to die for. I thought I have gotten over him since we have dated 4 years ago. We only dated for one month but I have obsessed over him for over a year afterwards. I was so obsessed that I thought I had serious mental problems. I was naive and became infatuated with him. I have dated several other guys afterwards and even had a long term relationship (long term as it lasted for over a year). But the feelings came flowing back when his picture just pop out of the blue. What should I do? Don't tell me to go to a psychiatrist. I don't think it is covered under my medicare plan.

I saw some pictures of my first love online a few months ago. Like you, I was head over heels for him and had seriously dated several other guys after him. But my heart still stopped. I have no idea why.

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Originally Posted by tremolo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I saw some pictures of my first love online a few months ago. Like you, I was head over heels for him and had seriously dated several other guys after him. But my heart still stopped. I have no idea why.

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Phew. It is good to know I am not the only one. This means the chances are, I am normal.

Ask yourself this.....did you ever properly "get over" him? Just because you dated some other guys doesn't mean you were over the first. People would suggest you seeing a professional because apparently you can't take the necessary steps to move on from the guy. First loves are tough, but 4 years ago for a 1 month relationship in which you were infatuated......I think you may need some help moving on.

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Originally Posted by IncognitoSir [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ask yourself this.....did you ever properly "get over" him? Just because you dated some other guys doesn't mean you were over the first. People would suggest you seeing a professional because apparently you can't take the necessary steps to move on from the guy. First loves are tough, but 4 years ago for a 1 month relationship in which you were infatuated......I think you may need some help moving on.

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Well, I am not still thinking about him everyday. In fact, I haven't thought of him for a very long time. It is just when I saw his picture unexpectantly. What does properly getting over him means?

Was he the first person you slept with? That can have quite an effect. I know how you feel, because after my ex broke my heart, and after I found out a whole lot of shady, disgusting stuff he got up to afterward, I got 'over' him pretty quickly. But when I was googling him out of curiosity several years later, I found him on a modeling agency website and when I looked up the pictures, a whole rush of feelings came flooding back. They didn't last long - I thought about him for maybe a day or two. But yeah. It was hard to see those pictures. They brought back a whole bunch of memories.

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Originally Posted by tremolo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Was he the first person you slept with? That can have quite an effect. I know how you feel, because after my ex broke my heart, and after I found out a whole lot of shady, disgusting stuff he got up to afterward, I got 'over' him pretty quickly. But when I was googling him out of curiosity several years later, I found him on a modeling agency website and when I looked up the pictures, a whole rush of feelings came flooding back. They didn't last long - I thought about him for maybe a day or two. But yeah. It was hard to see those pictures. They brought back a whole bunch of memories.

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No, he wasn't the first person I slept with. In fact, he was the ONLY one who I never became physically intimate with. He wanted to but it was too early for me.

I feel as if he was the one who got away.

Well there goes my theory. Haha.

I just want to fall in love again so someone can take his place but it has become really hard for me. I have just become pickier and more cynical than before. I am still distressed.

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Originally Posted by sadie_genie [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I just want to fall in love again so someone can take his place but it has become really hard for me. I have just become pickier and more cynical than before. I am still distressed.

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ever tried dating doctors?

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Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

ever tried dating doctors?

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Hmmm..i just googled and it says it is covered under my health plan. I don't know if I should go though. I might get laughed at. Is it silly?

Plus, if the doctor does take it seriously, I don't want to take drugs for it. They like to prescribe drugs for everything.

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Originally Posted by sadie_genie [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Hmmm..i just googled and it says it is covered under my health plan. I don't know if I should go though. I might get laughed at. Is it silly?

Plus, if the doctor does take it seriously, I don't want to take drugs for it. They like to prescribe drugs for everything.

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you better not be serious!!!! the doctor will laugh at it guaranteed!

the best way to get over someone is to get under a doctor!

You won't get laughed at. But I would probably suggest a pyschologist rather than a pyschiatrist it sounds more pyschological unless you are exhibiting strange behaviour that needs meds. The therapist will help you understand why you are not able to move on.

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Originally Posted by pisces25 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You won't get laughed at. But I would probably suggest a pyschologist rather than a pyschiatrist it sounds more pyschological unless you are exhibiting strange behaviour that needs meds. The therapist will help you understand why you are not able to move on.

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Ok, thanks!

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Originally Posted by pisces25 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You won't get laughed at. But I would probably suggest a pyschologist rather than a pyschiatrist it sounds more pyschological unless you are exhibiting strange behaviour that needs meds. The therapist will help you understand why you are not able to move on.

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oh please tell that you know doctors personally and that they don't laugh about their cases!