He's twice my age, I need advice please? :/
It's a little silly, but here it is:
I've been seeing a guy casually, really only in the context of spending the night and leaving in the morning. He has had a open relationship with his girlfriend, whom he described as crazy, hot, violent, and obsessive. I didn't think much of it, tried to offer advice when I could, and didn't feel jealous about it. He described the two of them as "in the process of breaking up" to which I was pretty dang skeptical, but I think he loved her and she kept pushing to keep the relationship going. Apparently she cheated on him a couple of times at some point. I met her while he was staring at me from across the room, and she gave me the death glare, and yes she was hot.
Anyway, I dated different guys, while still seeing him. Slowly I grew to appreciate how rational he was, how calm he made me feel, how honest he was (although you never completely know with that one). We seemed similar. He joked that I was his little sister, gave me advice, and always complimented me on how honest and attractive I was. I thought nothing of it, but looked forward to seeing him more and more.
But then, *gasp* the feelings started to happen. I started developing a crush on him. I didn't want to see anyone else, because no one seemed as good as he seemed. We spoke about it frequently-- he said that since I am half his age, I'm basically "a baby," so I better not have feelings for him. Yeah yeah yeah... but here I am.
So the last time I saw him, I told him that I had a crush on him. He could take it or leave it, continue or not see me. We didn't want anyone getting hurt, right? He made some vague protest, and I explained that I didn't care about his age, etc. and he seemed really surprised. The next morning, things seemed different. We gazed into each other's eyes, I was giddy, obviously all into him, and before I went he affectionately called me the pet name "my love." I shouldn't think anything of it, but it's hard when you like someone to ignore that stuff. So I asked him if he wanted to go out on the weekend and he said maybe.
Weekend roles around, I don't really have my hopes up, and he texts that he's broken up with said girlfriend for good, and he feels horrible and probably needs to be alone. I feel unexpectedly sad for his loss... breakups are awful, and I knew that he loved her. Recovery will probably take a while, too, if all that is true and they don't get back together.
So.... now what? How much space do I give him, or should I try to get rid of my crush? Do I not contact him at all, or do I check in and see if he wants to talk? I just want him to be happy, basically. But I don't know how to/whether to talk to him now...