someone tell me im doin the right thing...
I'm in this situation with a girl... There is another guy too... We've 'talked' for about 6 months. But I've been sort of the call up when somethin is wrong and get to see her not all the time just occasionally... There has been a lot of problems with the other guy lately, and she has been askin me to hang out more. But before we got into it I wanted ta make sure everythin was in order so to speak. So finally last night we had this long conversation and I said that I wanted ta make sure she knew my intentions of the relationship. I said she knows I'm not in it to be some kind of best friend to her. She said she knows that. I said that I didn wanna get into somethin more in depth if there was nothin there. And then I basically just asked, I said as far as me and you there's either somethin there or there isn't, its black and white. She says its not that easy because there would be if there wasn other guy, but her and other guy are in a weird place right now and she doesn know about it and that she's just really confused.
That's when I said, well, call me when you're not confused because its not fair for me to do this anymore and to be somethin ta you that I can't be. Because you get the best of me and I only get the best of you sometimes and the other times I'm just cleanin up your emotional messes.. She said you're right, started to cry, etc.. And we pretty much left it at that. And I feel like we shouldn talk for awhile. Which I believe is the probably smartest thing to do. But I feel like its gonna suck.
I feel like she knows that if I go she's losin somethin, but too confused to act on it. it sucks because I feel that were so close but that if I don't do this nothin may ever happen because if I don't go away she won't know what she's losing.
Am I doing the right thing?