I want my ex boyfriend back, help please?
I had been with my boyfriend for 10 months and had been going through a rocky patch recently with him not knowing what he wanted about anything in his life as he has had a lot going on (his head has been really messed up). Hes not being able to tell me he loved me. With a holiday already booked for 5th july we decided that we would still go and hope it would help us and he hoped it would help him fall back in love and clear his head. The holiday was going really well and i do feel that we were getting back on track and moving forward again, we got drunk on one of the first nights and after sex he told me he loved me. Then we got drunk two nights before coming home and i went and opened my mouth and asked him if he loved me which led to him saying he didnt know anything and made him think about everything all over again! I felt so stupid as i didnt want to talk about anything that had been happening :@. He then started saying 'You're a lovely girl and you mean so much to me' i got upset and ran off out the hotel room which scared the s**t out of him he ran after me and said we should go sleep cus he didnt know what he was saying, he cuddled me in his sleep so i wouldnt run off again. The next day we went to the waterpark and acted like nothing had happened as we didnt want the last day of the holiday ruined. We got home on Tuesday and on Weds night he told me he just wants to try and be friends as he thinks it will be better because he cares alot about me but just doesnt love me no more.
I really want to follow steps to get him back as we are good together and i have been reading up on things on the internet. I am broken but i have followed advice and not shown him this and i have not been begging him to take me back. The last thing i told him was that i agree with the break up which is what i was told to do. I feel like he just needs space untill he was cleared his head and that he is still confused as to what he wants.
I was never friends with him before we got together, we just jumped straight into a relationship. He said to me not long ago that he thinks we should have been friends first but i don't know why because we managed 10months without doing that? :S
I'm sorry about the lengthiness of this but i really do need help, i'm trying no contact but i keep thinking it will make him think i'm doing fine without him and instead of missing me he will just move on. can you tell me what to do next?
i know what you are talking about
My friend was in the whole same situation:upset:,
they started dating right after they met, in a month she moved to his apartment, after 7-8 months, they broke up, same story - he didn't know if he loved her or no n she was all after him. he said oh, let's stay friends, we are too different, everyth hap so fast n this n that.
the girl was totally broke, she was crying all the time, depressed, but she still had a hope. being friends she came closer n closer too him. how? talking, texting, having dinner together, cooking for him, she was just waitin till he gonna fall in love w her or at least got used so much he couldn't imagine a single day without her.
and yes they slept together... why? cuz she didn't want him to go oth girl, it hurt her he was kinda using her, but at least he was w her not sb else, and furthermore she was gettin what she wanted as well cuz she couldn't imagine herself with sb else! so slowly lil by lil, what you think? he started callin her GF, it took almost 9 month of her hard work to get him.
u think dumm n stupid? maybe... but that's what she wanted n she got it, not easy, very hard, but nob said u get everyth u want easy. though he still didn't tell her he loves her to her face, but she's more than sure he does, there's just sm oth reason y he can't pronounce that....
well, everyth is in your head girl, the way you draw it, the way you see it - that's the way it is goin to be!:nerd:
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