Lahnnabell, I think you and I agree on many fundamentals, but I think we work at different speeds.
Anyway, if me and my date do sleep together, I do make breakfast sometimes, or we go out to breakfast.
Before we ever sleep together we know each other very well. We might talk 10 hours over 7 days on the phone, then have our first date. And I make sure to cover all the things that are important to me, and I ask all the things that are important to her in a relationship. Through email we both make "must have" lists, where we list all the things we need in a relationship, the deal breakers. If I can meet all her needs then that's a good sign. Then I determine if we are a good match. If we are, on to date number one.