I believe in life there is always something you can learn [about yourself or others] in all situations. Relationships are no different, especially ones that didn't work. The difficulty in this is that many of us, including myself, have a tendancy to blame ourselves more so than the other person. Despite this struggle I think that eventually (if you want to learn from your or other's mistakes) the lesson(s) becomes clear.
I hate being bogged down by emotional turmoil and usually do the work to move past it. So I ask are there others out there willing to share their lessons learned in love?
I'll start. The recent lesson I have learned, which is not easy to bare, is to trust my gut and my intuition. I saw red flags in the first two dates and ignored them. I honestly think that had I done anything different it still wouldn't have changed the outcome. I hope that by acknowledging this I come closer to acceptance and to avoid holding any grudges against him.
