Do you think I should contact him?
Hi guys,
I have been dating this guy for about 4-5 months but a couple of days ago we had to "break it off" (we were never really serious, though we were exclusive, liked each other, pretty much bf/gf but I was moving and he knew this so we never made it official) because I'm leaving in a week and a half to a different country.
All the time we dated (mostly) he was so gentlemanly and we got a long REALLY well. The only thing lacking was our communication but honestly, we were both at fault. I wish I would have talked with him more about "us" and where things were going or let him know I liked him a little more (I told him but don't really feel like I acted that way) but I didn't.
Before I left, our last few dates were really awkward and I don't know why. Mostly I felt like he wasn't acting like himself: one day he was just really rude. Not to me but cussing and just acting odd, not like I remember him acting.
Other times I felt like I was forcing myself on him: in the beginning of our relationship, he'd contact me, want to hang out, etc but I kind of put him off because I wasn't sure how I felt about him. Recently I'd been feeling like I was doing all of the work. But whenever I'd say, "We need to hang out" or "We should hang out some time soon" he'd say, "I know! I'm always down!" so it made it seem like he was leaving it up to me, which I didn't mind, really, I just didn't know if it was because he was leaving it up to me because I was always busy before or if he didn't really care if he hung out with me or not.
All of these things lead up to where we are now: our goodbye. Our last week was really complicated: I was moving earlier than I expected so we really had limited time. One of dates was REALLY REALLY good and I felt like it was back to "us" but the last few were so awkward. Conversation didn't seem to go anywhere and I don't know, it was different. Maybe to do with me moving, I'm not sure...
Since we'd been dating for a few months, I never expected a long distance relationship but honestly, I felt like we had something. I don't really know what but I felt like he liked me and I liked him and I don't know, I thought SOMETHING would happen during our goodbye (not sexually) but it didn't. On our last day, he simply said, "Well... I hope you enjoy your trip.." and "If I don't see you again, have fun." Both of these phrases were nice but he didn't even mention keeping in touch. Maybe he felt like it's not worth it (I'm going to be gone about 9-10 months and he may or may not be moving to another city by the time I get back). I just would have thought that given everything we'd been through, the things he's done for me, the way he's treated me (really well) he wouldn't want to lose contact with me completely.
Maybe I just need to forget about it and move on. It's only been a couple of days and I know that after time it will get a little easier but do you think that eventually before I leave I should ask him if he wants to keep in contact? Or should I just take his not offering as he doesn't really want to keep in contact? A huge part of me feels like maybe he was waiting for me to say something since he always waits for me to make the moves it seems but the other part of me is like, "When someone really wants something, they do it."
What do you think? Should I contact him or no?
Thanks!
