Please read my situation and let me know your opinion
Hello, I am a new member here and would really appreciate any constructive and insightful opinions on the situation I am in right now. I will explain the situation as briefly as possible because I know nobody wants to read pages upon pages. Here it is:
Im 24, and about 2 months ago I met a girl at my gym. I decided to introduce myself after noticing her several times because I simply had an intuitive feeling that I needed to talk to her. What happened next still amazes me as we have so many thing in common, I feel like I am talking to myself, but someone of the opposite sex. Even little things that I thought were weird about me, she shares some of those same similarities. Anyways... I found out she in engaged, and has been for 6 months. She has been with the guy for one year. I was all set to move to Phoenix after Graduate school about 3 weeks after I met her, but after talking to her daily, my feelings grew so strong I couldn't leave her. I told her how I felt, and to my surprise she reciprocated the same feelings for me, and she explained that her relationship with her fiancee had not been going well for the past 4 months. A little about her fiancee. He is 39, has a child, and is very overweight. She is 24, and in very great shape. Not that this means they are not a good couple, but they also don't have much in common at all she says. I am still not sure why she is even with him...
So, she told me that in order to feel good about the situation, she needs to talk to him about the problems she has with him and see if he will change to make the relationship work. This meant that we we did not talk to see each other for 3 weeks because she said she needed to focus on that 100%. 3 weeks passed and things went well for the first week but fell apart after that and they had several arguments and she told her that she "tries to hard to make the relationship work" and that she should hang out with her other friends. This pissed her off because she had been missing me, but avoiding me to try and make it work with him.. So... we started hanging out again and we started hanging out again. A week later she told me that they decided to split up since they are in to different stags of life and it just wont work. SO... that week, we started hanging out more and were getting intimate. Then, her fiance had a serious, very bad allergic reaction to something and had to go to the hospital. She texted me and said she felt guilty and sad and weird about the whole situation and she needs to space to get over it.... I have not heard from her in one week and have not seen her in 2 weeks and she won't respond to my text messages. The last thing she said was, "thank you for being supportive and understanding, its not anything I could ask of you, yet your that way anyway- just a great person."
I dont know what to do at this point. Has she decided to get back together with him? I doubt it- how does him going in the hospital change all the problems they have had for the last 4 months? he is still the same person... Was out relationship moving to quickly and does she simply need time to move out of her apartment with him and then start a relationship with me?
