Thanks guys. I have a bad habit of being overly abrasive when I have to tell someone something they don't like and can't tell when I have been spot on or over the top.
When it comes to hubby's best mate, well I could take him or leave him at the moment. Firstly I can't believe he got his panties in a twist about the wedding (hubby has started calling him the oyster farmer) and I have dissevered through all of this that he doesn't listen to/ respect a word I say. This has pissed me off because over the time I have been with hubby I have gone out of my way to befriend this guy. Eg. When hubby proposed, his best mate suggested going to another state for a bucks night. I laughed and said that ain't gonna happen. If he's having a bucks night, I have to be in the same city in case he ends up in lock up. With my man, this is a serious consideration. When the best mate discovered we had eloped he got all upset saying he had been planning an out of town bucks nights for years. Hubby and I were quite perplexed because hubby has agreed with me EVERY time I have said no out of town bucks nights. I also tried to explain via FB our decision to elope and our decision to not tell anyone who wasn't going to be there. I heard hubby have to explain EVERYTHING I had explained in the FB message. Apparently it's not truth until hubby says it. So I have a complete f**k him attitude now.