LDR troubles

So I am currently in a long distance relationship with a girl whom I do truly love. We lived near one and other for some time and now I've moved but we talk "often". My problem is nature in which we talk. She has got to be the least forthcoming person I've ever met. She so rarely talks about the details of her life; books shes reading, people shes conversed with, the general details of her day, what she's doing for the weekend ect. I mean I know nearly nothing about her days and goings on unless I ask and ask and ask and eventually get details. But it goes beyond that. She is also the most emotionally closed person I've ever met. You have to go ten rounds with her just to get to the core of some uncovered feeling. She's exceptionally guarded and private. Some of it, I get and some of it, most of it, tortures me on a daily basis. This would be more ok with me if she didnt have an wide open door relationship with her father. I mean they talk literally everyday about everything. Including sex. But with me, I can barely get an iota of information. I'm sure there's an benevolent psychological explanation for it, but WTF. Shouldnt she being going outside her comfort zone to show me love and attention? Its like she attempting the opposite. Its killer. And I wouldnt even mind if we could talk about it but when we do discuss it, she acts like this is completely normal and does share. Im stressing.

Not to mention I've asked her for sexual things while we are apart and she basically has not complied. Its impossible and tearing me apart. Any insight?

Why don't you ask her directly? This is weird to hear, girls like to talk, is she shy or something? Or maybe she works for the national security :D, haha I'm joking. I think the best thing is communicate with her about it!

Hth is right. You need to talk to her about it.Explain that you love her and want to be able able to share more with her. Make sure you don't make it sound like an accusation. Use a lot of 'I's instead of 'you' and focus on how her behaviour is making you feel.

Also, I wanted to mention that I was shocked to read that you have asked her for sexual things and she did not 'comply'. There is no such thing as compliance when it comes to sex! If there are things you would like to explore sexually with her, then you need to have a discussion with her to find out how she feels about them and if she is interested in trying them out. Under no circumstance does she have to comply with what you want! She has the right to say no if she doesn't like or want to try something you have suggested (note I said suggested and not told her) and you have to respect her decision.

Don't be "shocked". this is a forum, I'm using words I thought of, its not the exact replica of real life. I mean she said things would happen and havent. Im not demanding anything. I just want to feel a sexual connection with her over this long distance and theres very little of that.

I do ask her directly and she doesnt really talk about it. She claims that she does share and things and that shes opened more than with me than anyone else but i feel distance almost always. Its unnerving. I know how odd it is and she seems to vaguely understand that but doesnt truly delve into the nature of it. She talks about her youth being traumatic on several levels but claims she is now well adjusted. I really dont know.

I read something about how women like a man to just listen, not offer advice or try to help the problem. Just listen. I realize I might offer solutions unprovoked or try to help her with her problems. But I just assume you talk to someone about your problems that you want help with them. Why else talk about it>??

Well maybe this relationship isn't for you. We all have relationship expectations right? If they can't be met or you have to go to all this trouble of "discussing it" all the time then you are left with frustration and disappointment. It's not fair really. A man should please his woman and a woman should please her man. Who knows maybe she's slowly pushing herself out of this relationship.