is it possible sex relationship to turn into a propper one,younger guy,too? thanks
(I just decided to post this here,too. i posted it in the 'ask a male audience' but I would like to hear everyone's thoughts)
Thanks
I am 34 yrs old and i have had romances that lasted 2-4 months, but I have not had a serious relationship since I split from my boyfriend of 5 years 10 years ago.Sex-wise, my situation is : 2 years with no sex ( i have kissed one guy, but that was it)
So... about 2 weeks ago I was out in a restaurant with a bunch of friends having a really great time. At the table accross was this other bunch of friends (mixed girls and guys, as we were) ..all of a sudden I noticed this guy staring at me. I ignored it thinking he was starign at another table. Then I accidentaly saw him agains tare at me. I noticed he is waaaay younger than me and I thought that was cheeky of him, but still ignored him bcs I thought he just wanted to ge tmy attention by flirting. I saw a girl next to him and I thought that was even more cheeky of him to be doing it in front of her as I thought she was his girlfriend. Anyway, time passed and he continued to stare and talk to this girl pointing at me while he stared. He then raised his glass at me and so did i...I thought that was it...However, after a while he got up from his table and while chatting with his friens gradually approached our table. He kept staring and at a short moment whan I caught his eyes he showed to the guy (my friend) sat next to me and I read his lips stating: ''is he your boyfriend/? ''. I mimicked'' no'' and that I could not hear him, I just read his lips and made gestures. Then he came to our table and asked me to step out to talk to him. He introduced himself and we started chatting. i ahve to admit I was flattered that 10 years younger guy was interested in me ( although it had happened before, but not with such a difference)....
Anyway, he told me he was in town for a week, he lives abroad ( 15 hrs by car ride) and he would like to have my number. I told him " why would you want my number/'' He said;'' well, to call u and grab some coffee''. I said "no,if you want to find me i will give you my name and fine me''. He said '' i don't like fb and I am here only for a week, how on earth will i find you?"...And then it dawned on me: This guy is 10 years younger, lives abroad, so there is no possibility for a relationship. Therefore, my mind will set in such a way that i won't fall in love where I know it's impossible to have the realtionship...instead, I could use this opportunity for sex so I gave him the number. I was till not sure, but I thought at least I can think about it in case he calls.
he texted next day asking me to go out where he was out with friends.i said I was in another place and didn't go. next day he asked me again and I didn't go. the third day i texted and said i could finally make it. he picked me up, we went to this festival with his friends and we kissed that night. he introdueced me to all his friends, was very polite, real gentleman, held my hand and all that. Of course, by this time I had decided to have sex with him as soon as possible as I din't want to waste time (it's what 2 yrs of dry patch makes you do hahah)...we went out the 2 following days ( with his friends again) and of course had sex again and he spent the night both times. On several occasions his friends mentioned that we looked very smitten while we cuddled & also one of his friens asked me if I would consider him as my 'husband-to be'' to which I laughed. Even when he himself asked me if I would come over and visit I laughed it off and said: ''yeah, right..and stay with your mum?''...I never mentioned anything about relationships, avoided even asking him eprsonal stuff because it would be more difficult to forget him. Basically, I never showed him I wanted anything more...because I thought nothing more was possible.
When we said goodbye I could tell he doesn't know what to say and I know how uncomfortable it can be so when he said: ''talk to you, see you''... I said: '' oh please, not those lines'' and said to him to have a safe trip back home...
So, someone tell me why a week after this (he has not contacted me since and I have not contacted him either) I am still thinking about him??? Can it be the extraordinary sex & chemistry & connection? I thought I was safe not to fall for a guy, but here I am, like a stupid teenage girl wondering what would happen if we were together...what would happen had I said this or that... did I make him think i don't want a relationship? Was I wrong to react in sucha way in front of friends saying iboyfriends are toruble etc...? Or would that not change anything anyway?
I am a firm believer that if a guy wants a girl, they will ignore all the signs from her and pursue her! I know this from all the guys who have been into me and I didn't like, so I never went on a second date...
Is it that straightforward this time, too ?...or am i to blame for killing his hopes?
thanks guys
looking f-wad to your reply
