He says he still loves me but doesn't fancy me anymore ?
I first got together with my boyfriend 5 years ago. For the first 3 years it was mainly a sexual relationship and was very on and off , always on his terms with him messing me about a lot and sometimes not seeing each other for months. I always knew/thought he had a commitment phobia .
2 years ago , after a couple of months apart we started seeing each other regularly and became girlfriend/boyfrind ( BTW I am 41 and he is 34). Everything was great and we enjoyed spending time together and had a great sex life. We never made "love" it was always rauncy hot sex.
Problems began ( I think ) when he started to fall in love with me. As time has gone on he has become less and less interested in me sexually.He showed no interest in me sexually and I began to think he was avoiding being sexually intimate with me although he still loved me cuddling up to him in bed. I tried buying sexy lingerie, watching porn together but it got to the stage where he either lost his erection half way through or couldn't finish.
After months of me questioning him , he has finally admitted that sex with me doesn't feel right anymore, he doesn't fancy me anymore or even like kissing me. On discussing the inevitable of splitting up, he broke down sobbing saying he didn't want to be without me and still loved me.
We are now in a situation where we have supposedly split up but we are still seeing each other, sharing a bed with lots of cuddles but no sex.
Please help, what's going on in his head ?
Bit of background info - although I am 7 years older than him, I dont look my age, have a nice figire and am told by many people i'm attractive and sexy.
Not sure if this is relevant but he grew up without his mum (she died when he was 9) and his dad died when he was in his late20's
