Girl has me confused

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19-09-11, 01:38 PM
george88

Girl has me confused

This is an updated post. Some new info has happened and its towards the bottom

Trying to figure out whats up with me and this girl?
ok so I met this on a dating site about 4 months ago and we talked on there and facebook. i then asked if she would want to go play some miniature golf and she said yes. we went 2 fridays ago and we had a really good time. We talked alot and we just had fun. she hugged me and said it was nice meeting me and i agreed and said we should go bowling if shes interested and she said "yes i think we should"
i then asked "is it a date" and she said "yea" then I asked "soo are we official?" now i didnt mean boyfriend/girlfriend, i meant to ask like is it an official date?? cuz i wasnt sure were she saw us at you know? she didnt know what i meant so i just asked if she saw today as a date and she said "i thought you were just wanting to meet me? and get to know me" i sad yes and apologized. She said it was ok and gave me a hug. we then talked a bit more and left and waved goodbye

when i got home i texted her telling her i had fun and we will for sure do something again and she agreed

now we have talked since that day. nothing about dating has been brought up

we didnt go bowling yet because she has to work this weekend and was busy with school all week. i also asked if she would want to go to a festival next weekend but she is going to be at a party out of town all weekend (which is true).
she doesnt just say no i cant, i'm busy. she says she will be busy with school or whatever and asks if there is another day we could go or if it will be open again at a later date.

i asked if she would want to go to a fall festival and she said yes that seems pretty cool

well now on facebook her relationship status changed from singal to its complicated

im confused because i dont know if its menaing me OR possibaly another guy. Do I ask her about it or what?? Im confused about the situation
19-09-11, 08:43 PM
george88

anyone help me?
19-09-11, 09:16 PM
elny1

Don't be so concerned about where you're at in her head. A successful womanizer told me once- "Don't read too much into a girl. If she's still talking to you and willing to spend time with you, then that's all you need to know". Don't get up in her grill about labeling a status. You've been on one date for christ sake. You should even assume that she's dating multiple guys right now seeing which one she likes the most, and you should be doing the same thing. If you're hanging out one-on-one don't call the occasion a 'date'. Just have fun and flirt with her. See where your connection is with her and what feels right to you. It takes two to tango, don't just chuck the ball in her court and let her take full lead of this relationship. You'll come off desperate and unattractive.
19-09-11, 10:17 PM
bulrush

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she doesnt just say no i cant, i'm busy. she says she will be busy with school or whatever and asks if there is another day we could go or if it will be open again at a later date.

This is key. She wants to reschedule, so that means she's still interested. If she doesn't offer an alternate date, she's not interested. Some girls are just plain busy, and you have to work with that. They are very sociable, because that's what they like to do, or are busy with homework. Advanced HS classes can take a lot of homework time.
20-09-11, 03:46 AM
george88

anyone else?
20-09-11, 03:48 AM
BackUpOrGetStng

Sounds like she's avoiding you. Keep trying if you think she's telling the truth about being busy.
20-09-11, 04:06 AM
Wakeup

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well now on facebook her relationship status changed from singal to its complicated

im confused because i dont know if its menaing me OR possibaly another guy. Do I ask her about it or what?? Im confused about the situation

ignore the facefk status if or until you actually go on another date with her (this fall festival) then when you are FACE-TO-FACE with her ask her what "complicated" means. If you're face to face you can gauge her reaction to the question and hear voice reflection/hesitation/hedging etc. Use your common sense to figure out what you should do (or not do any more) by how she answers you.

Confirm the date for the festival with her and if she flakes on you then don't bother contacting her anymore, she's either too busy to be your date or she is too uninterested. Either way, you can do better than her and her busy self.

You've asked this question several times. The answer isn't going to change much so just make the date, and if she flakes then forget she exists.