Moving too fast?

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27-09-11, 10:33 PM
universal2

Moving too fast?

hey guys would you say things are moving too fast in my new relationship? Im 25 and shes 21. She lives about an hour away.

Sooo...

We met online, spoke nearly every day for about a month, then swapped numbers and always seemed to be txting. We have a lot in common and there was loads to talk about. She did mention something like "I hope its ok to say this but I do really like you".

We met up the other day and wow she was even more pretty than I thought. Luckily id had a few pints beforehand as her train was late so confidence wasnt too bad.

Started off talking, went bowling, had a laugh, as we were having more drinks I felt more drunk than her (oops). As time went on that day we ended up going to more pubs, and what went from constant conversation turned to kissing, cuddling, holding hands, tickling (even joking pretending to strangle her :P). We were completely more relaxed, even the sarcasm joking after kissing of "ahhh, well it isnt going good today is it? im gonna delete your number and delete you off facebook when I get home".

We then spoke of how it would be an amazing idea to start a relationship together.

Things were just awesome. I had nearly a full pint left and she had to get her train so i took the pint with me :D. Easily could make women run away but she knew we were having a laugh and found it somewhat funny.

Anyways on the walk home I had a txt off her saying something like "Thanks for an amazing day/night boyfriend".

When I staggered home (after realising I must of had over 10 pints) I went on the pc, she was on FB, we spoke for a bit, I was drunk still so was quite an over excited usual drunk chat, I think as I was buzzing off the day I said to her if she was serious when we said about being in a relationship? She said yea, so I changed my relationship status and put it to in a relationship with her, n she accepted :D

So now im trying to think if it was too early? I mean it felt right, we got on better than expected, and in a way because she lives an hour away its not like we can meet up whenever we like so perhaps I thought instead of beating around the bush when we blatantly like eachother a lot we could be in a relationship now instead of waiting a few months when we know we want to be together
27-09-11, 10:45 PM
Mathias

You should drink less.
27-09-11, 10:54 PM
universal2

Yea I agree, I never drink that much really but I had an hour to kill as her train was late, then because we kept going to different pubs and socialising it just came naturally :)
27-09-11, 10:59 PM
James Banes

No, you're not moving too fast. People tend to waste time in relationships. It's good to change things up a bit.

The only concern is you had to drink in order to talk to her. That's a bad sign. You should be able to talk to her without alcohol.
27-09-11, 11:13 PM
universal2

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Originally Posted by James Banes [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No, you're not moving too fast. People tend to waste time in relationships. It's good to change things up a bit.

The only concern is you had to drink in order to talk to her. That's a bad sign. You should be able to talk to her without alcohol.

thanks mate. I think alcohol was only there because that was the plan beforehand (we planned to go bowling, have a few drinks and check out some of the pubs I went to with friends when we were txting). I tend to get pretty nervous on first dates as well (with thoughts that maybe she will think a different picture of me after the date than what she did before). Although now that bit of ice is broken I wont need any next time :)
27-09-11, 11:18 PM
James Banes

Sounds good. Glad you hit it off quick. I'm sure most guys envy being able to get a girlfriend so quickly.
27-09-11, 11:20 PM
surfhb

I think it's cool you could take your pint with you walking her to the train! You'd get a citation for such a thing here in the States.
27-09-11, 11:23 PM
Mathias

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Originally Posted by James Banes [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Sounds good. Glad you hit it off quick. I'm sure most guys envy being able to get a girlfriend so quickly.

Speak for yourself. If a girl wanted a relationship after the first date, I might take your advice and move to another state.
27-09-11, 11:58 PM
James Banes

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Originally Posted by surfhb [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think it's cool you could take your pint with you walking her to the train! You'd get a citation for such a thing here in the States.

I think it's illegal in England too. He just didn't get caught.

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Originally Posted by Mathias [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Speak for yourself. If a girl wanted a relationship after the first date, I might take your advice and move to another state.

I'm kinda interested in getting with a crazy woman right now. The dull, passive-aggressive midwestern woman has been boring me for a long time now. It might be nice to meet a woman with a little fire in her. If I survive, I can always write a book about it.
27-09-11, 11:58 PM
universal2

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Originally Posted by surfhb [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think it's cool you could take your pint with you walking her to the train! You'd get a citation for such a thing here in the States.

You probably could here as well, It was good beer so didnt want to waste it (although at the train station I put it down for 1 min and knocked it over :S).

Mat - thats why it was a bit confusing, I can see a lot of people wouldnt just get in a relationship with someone they barely knew but didnt know really if distance made things happen quicker. I always thought that if 2 people really like eachother then it would be an idea to form a relationship instead of giving it many more months when they know full well its going to form anyway. When dating theres no commitment so people can look elsewhere and go on dates with others, but if the 2 only like/fancy/want eachother then maybe its good to form something exclusive to eachother