Advice needed

Hi everyone.

I'm a 25y.o male who has been dating a girl now for just over 3 months. We were friends for around 6 months before we started seeing eachother.

Brief background - My girl suffers from depression. To top it off, lately she has had more on her plate then anyone should face in a decade (out of personal respect I will not post them on here). Lately all affection has stopped. She told me that she just doesn't want to be touched and I respect that and have given her distance with just the odd hug and kiss on the top of her head. I am the only person who knows that she is really breaking down at the moment. Not even her Mother or best friends. Because she doesn't want them to know anything is wrong, she acts all fine around them. I'll be the first to admit that I did question why the friends still get affection but not me. I didn't feel as if I could talk to her about them without her blowing up at me as she has been feeling a lot of anger of late. Ofcourse, me being the closest thing to her, cops it all.

Last night it became all too much to hold in. I haven't spoken to anyone as I didn't want to let up that she is down. I made a joke to her and she blew up at me. I know it was immature of me but I got up and walked out of the house (infront of friends) and went for a walk. She came out around 10mins later where I tried to talk to her. She doesn't see that she is pushing me away and I'm coping anger. None the less, I got my say and I got some answers out of her. After all of that, I now know it was just because she didn't want anyone to know except me that she was down. We went back in and I personally apologised to my friends and we stayed there for a few more hours before driving home.

Anyways, we both slept last night for 13 hours after we finished our discussion. I gave her some cuddles during the night and she said she was greatful I was there. Even still, she decided that she needs a few days alone and has gone back to her Mothers house. So far we know it'll be 2 nights, but we'll play it by ear to see if its more. I think it's a good idea as we do need space.

I tell her all the time that she means a lot to me and that I am there for her. Is there anything I'm doing wrong? Is there anything that I could try to help? Just in the past week (since she's been really down) the fighting has been a lot more frequent (several times in a week compared to 2 times in 3 months). I'm not scared off and I want to be with her. I want to be there for her. I don't know how long this spell will last and I don't know when the next one will be. It's just hard to communicate with her at the moment because of all the anger and it's just very hard to find out off of her what she needs me to do.

I guess a vent is what I really needed as I haven't been able to talk to any of my friends or family. But if anyone has any advice or encouragement, it wouldn't go a stray.

Thanks for listening.