Is there any way i can force a girl to have an abortion?
I really don’t know how to start this thread. It just feels like my life has gone from being completely perfect to being completely and utterly in pieces within the last three weeks, and I don’t know how I can fix this situation?
OK, let’s begin. So I’m a happily married man, and have been married to the most amazing woman for the past 10 years, 4 of which we’ve been trying for a baby. In Summer we had been talking about going through IVF, probably next year, as at this stage of our life we really want to start a family of our own.
So here’s where the wrecking ball comes in. My wife and I are swingers in the local scene. Nothing too extreme, we just meet other couples who are into swinging, and if we both like them we see them from time to time to add spice to our love life. We’ve been doing this for most of our relationship, in fact we started swinging with other couples even before we were married.
So, 2 years ago we met Paul and Lynda, another married couple around the same age as us, and they eventually became really good friends with us, as well as regulars in our love-life. We’d maybe swing with them once a month, and the rest of the time we’d meet up with them socially for drinks.
So, and this is where it all goes wrong, 3 weeks ago I got a call from Paul to tell me Lynda was pregnant, a complete shock to me, as I know Paul has had his tubes tied as he never wanted any children, and that the baby is mine. Now, I always used condoms whenever I swing with another woman, and the only person I have had unprotected sex with for the past 14 years is my wife, so I told him no way the could baby be mine. Perhaps his vasectomy operation wasn’t as successful as he thought? But he said no, the baby was definitely mine. He had grilled Lynda for hours on this, and demanded the truth from her, and she admitted that she had fished my condoms out of the garbage, and used them to get herself pregnant? At this moment I am not sure if that’s even possible? Wouldn’t my sperm have died by then? I’m really confused over this.
Fast forward 3 weeks from that initial conversation, and now Paul has thrown Lynda out of their marital home, and she has gone back to live with her parents. He told me he made it clear to her when they were married that he would never want to have children, and he even had the vasectomy to make sure they never had kids, and he has told her to get rid of this baby or their marriage is over, which she point-blank refuses.
I have gone to speak to Lynda myself, and asked her if what Paul said was true, and she said it was, and it is my baby. And she also said that, as her husband has thrown her out her home and she’s now living with her parents, she expects me to provide for her and the child, and buy everything she needs for the baby coming, or she will contact the Child Support Services, and make them take money off me to care for this child. I feel physically sick at this whole situation. I mean, can she even do that? It’s not like I willingly made her pregnant? If it’s even true then it’s like I’m almost a forced / stolen sperm donor. It almost feels like I’ve been raped because of the way she has used me, and now she expects me to foot the bill for this kid she has stolen from me?
My wife actually wants to physically hurt this woman, she has gone from being one of our best friends to betray us, and I am close to breaking point with whats happening. I feel I have been used and now stand to lose everything, as it’s torn a huge rift in my relationship with my wife. She’s even thinking of ending our marriage, as she feels so distraught that we have been trying for a baby for so long, and now I am having one with someone else, though not through my actions. I don’t know what to do anymore. I have tried to talk Lynda into doing the right thing by my wife and I, as my wife is now severely depressed and on anti-depressants because of the situation, and going to counseling because of it. I think I probably need counseling too. But Lynda just says “the baby is staying, deal with it!” and it’s not only destroyed her own marriage with her selfish actions, it is probably going to destroy ours too.
Is there any way we can make this woman see sense? Make her realize this is wrong? I don’t even know if we can get the Police involved, or take it through the courts to make her terminate this pregnancy? Its not right the way she has done this, and I don’t know what to do anymore, and I’m starting to get suicidal thoughts over this whole thing.
