Do you think she will go out with me if I ask her out face to face?
For the last year of my life I have liked this girl a lot, I’m almost 20 and I met her at work last year.
Now I know I did a number of things wrong because of a lack of experience and confidence. I met her early November last year, yet waited till February to ask for her number and asked her out late Feb/March and when I did ask her out over the phone to the movies and she said ‘yes’, I didn’t set a date or time because I asked if she was busy in the next week and she said she was and I can't remember if I said I'd get back to her or she said that, this was early March (ROOKIE MISTAKE!!!!!!, I can’t believe I was such a stupid idiot!). When I asked her out to coffee a few weeks later after the movies date call with a date and time, she said ‘she’d get back to me’ when I asked and again when I saw her the next day at work (I was there to check my schedule and I bumped into her)
I think in one of my big opportunities where I think I might have had a chance to seal something was Boxing Day 2010, we were both working and she asked me if I was going to a local nightclub on the night and I said ‘yes’ and she smiled and said ‘see you there’. I didn’t get in till about 12am because of the line and as I walking past in the outside beer garden she grabbed my arm, stopped me and kissed me on the cheek and we talked for 2-3 minutes. I couldn’t seal anything because she had to leave the club due to waking up early the next day.
I've gotten fitter in the last few months since joining the gym, went from 16.55% bf to about 12% body fat already and although I was never 'fat' whilst I've known her, I am a lot more fitter and starting to tone and gain muscle and I also got my braces off too recently:) So I think this is the source for my 'new' confidence but I don't want to let it be my actual confidence if you get what I mean. I feel better, I look better and I need to show I'm better than I was 6 months ago overall.
We still get along great when we talk, we don't usually work the same days so don’t see each other too consistently at the moment.
So I went into work today to develop some photos and she was working in the photo section, I just kept sitting down next to the machine sorting out my photos, I stood up once or twice because my legs were going stiff and she came over to me to talk. Just talked about me developing photos from my old phone because I got the new iPhone 4S and we had a friendly argument about which colour is better because she said she loves the white one and I kept saying the black one was better, and we both smiled a bit. I went up to the counter to pay for the photos and we talked for a few more minutes (no one else was around, it was just us two) about work, university and a few other things. A good conversation, she was smiling a bit and so was I still, I had this new 'natural confidence' it seemed, ever since I've got fitter, I feel a lot better physically and mentally. The vibe was very good, I think I have to ask her out sooner rather than later though (after exams though, my last one is the 8th November).
I want to ask her out once more but face to face like a man and if she rejects me, she rejects me. I really just want a definitive ‘yes’ or ‘no’ face to face and I’ll move on if it’s the latter.
