Did I ruin your engagement or was I put in a bad position...
Recently, I planned a trip for my friends to join me out of town for Halloween. I had job training so I was going to be there anyways. One of my friends couldn't make the trip so it left it to me and another couple. The guy decides a few days prior to this trip that he wants to propose. I told him more than once that I thought that would be weird and awkward because it would be just the 3 of us there; especially since we were all sharing a room together. He reassured me that it wouldn't so I agreed to help him with the proposal; I went above and beyond making calls for the flowers and picking up stuff for the special day since I was down in the town early for training.
Prior to leaving my training had almost got cancelled so we were going to be able to drive together, but then my training was back on. The boyfriend asked if i had "planned the whole time that they would drive separately", they both knew I had training and the only reason I suggested going to this town was because I was going to be there already? Then when it came time for them to pay for their part of the room I said we would split it 3 ways and they got upset that it wasn't 50/50, why should I have to spend more?
After the proposal we all went out to a bar. When we got there he sat in the middle of us with his back to me while they canoodled and made out, completely ignoring that I existed. I asked her later if she minded sitting in the middle because I felt like the 3rd wheel. We all went out on the dance floor they proceeded to grind on each other and make out the whole time, while I stood there by myself. So I said it again that I felt weird like the 3rd wheel that I should be there and that this time should have been shared between the two of them. In the whole of the night I think I told them that I felt I was the 3rd wheel half a dozen times because it was awkward being around them while they kissed and snuggled the whole time, I felt like I was intruding on something that should have been just them. It would have been different maybe if we were in a town where I knew people or if I had another friend with.
At the end of the night I had met a group of people guys and girls who invited me to an after-bar. When I told my friends that I was going to an after-bar they got pissed off and accused me of leaving with a "stranger who I just met" as if I was being a skanky slut, all they saw was me leaving with 1 dude, little did they know it was to an after-bar. They physically tried to pull me with them I had to shake myself free. I was like take this time to go back to the hotel and enjoy yourself I don't want to go back there that I shouldn't have been there the whole time! I went back early Friday night because you guys wanted to, this trip wasn't just about you guys I planned it to celebrate Halloween and I want to go to this party. They texted me saying I was rude for leaving, I said blatantly to them that I thought it was rude to make a trip about just them and force me to feel uncomfortable all night when I had planned the whole thing and paid a lot of money to be out of town for the weekend. I felt like her boyfriend stole a weekend I had planned to make it a romantic getaway for 2 with a stowaway, joy for me.
Now she says I stole a moment she had waited for all her life, 1 she has been married before, 2 this is her 3rd engagement. I tried to apologize for ruining her engagement but she proceeded to tell me that she didn't think we could ever be friends again. Am I totally off base for getting upset? If this trip had been specifically planned just for her and him to get engaged then I probably wouldn't have agreed to even go from the beginning but I did what I could to try to enjoy myself and make it special. The day was all good and special until they wanted to leave and tell me I HAD to go with them. I am 34 I don't HAVE to do anything.
Am I really in the wrong here or what???
