my partner has a child with someone else and im jealous
Hi all,
first of all i will try and keep this as short as possible but it is a bit of a long one, i would like some genuine advice please.
I got with my boyfreind in febuary 2010, in the august 2009 before me, he had met up with a women on two occasions, anyway it didnt work out and he decided not to see her again as she told him she had slept with someone else in the same week as him!! anyway a few weeks later he got the text saying she was pregnant, so of course he said he would pay for a DNA test, anyway throughout the pregnancy she gave him abuse for not being there etc, when of course why would he?
he didnt no if the baby was his? Anyway when i met him he told me of the case and to be honest i just hoped the baby wasnt his,although i do have a 7 year old boy myself from a previous relationship. Anyway he paid for dna as soon as baby was born and it turned out to be his, he totally stood up to the mark and has been a fantastic father to his son who is now 18 months old. Always has him twice a week on his days off etc and pays maintenance. anyway i forgot to mention that in the meantime when she was about 8 months pregnant, i fell pregnant with his baby but we decided to have a abortion as we didnt no if this other baby was his or not at the time. that wasnt nice for me i felt like someone else who barely nos him was possibly carrying his son and mine had to be taken away because of her.
anyway since the baby (jamie) has been born she has caused so much trouble, first of all my partner never had a say in the name and his son hant even got his surname! she texts him most days about random stuff that doesnt even matter or may not be anything to do with his son, at first my partner use to reply now he just ignores, but i cant just before christmas last year she asked him to get with her for the boys sake, she kicked up a fuss saying we werent allowed to have his son overnight he had to stay at her house, she came to her senses in the end but she put herself in this situation, i think she expected him to get with her once he found out he was his, he has even agreed, for the first 6 months of his life my partner hung around with her just to see his son as she wouldnt let him see him alone, which is fair enough at that age, but not now, she wants family days out etc with him, im finding it extra hard right now as me and my partner decided to come off birth contol and see what happens anyway, i had a ectopic pregnancy, i feel down as ever and now i hate her even more, everytime his phone gos i comment, or even pick it up, i hate the fact she has his son i feel i should have that, i no i sound pathetic but its how i feel, my partner has done nothing suspious at all towards her and i no he loves me with all his heart and i do him, as aprat from all this we have a great relationship we have just got a house together. but it is grinding me down, and most of all im scared of resenting his son as he grows up, he is a lovely little boy and i no none of it is his fault, but my jealousy seems to be getting worse, i throw sarcy comments at my partner most days. if theres anything else you need to ask please do, just want some freindly advice, thankyou for taking time to read my essay lol xxx
