Stick or twist...

Evening all,

I've been in a relationship with a Korean girl for the past 10 months. Things are good but I'm pretty confident that she's a lot more into me than I am into her. She's extremely pretty and thoughtful, all of my mates like her. She does have her petulant, unreasonable moments but I do understand that it's unrealistic to ask pefection from her! The only problem is that she doesn't speak perfect English and I really feel that this is a big reason why after nearly a year, I still feel fairly nonplussed about her at times. I have told her I love her in the past but I realise now that I probably don't and that maybe I never have or will.

Anyway, I just started a new teaching job and I'm working with a beautiful young lady who speaks fluent English. We have a lot to talk about and we have been flirting quite a lot in and out of the classroom. She has a boyfriend of 4 years but she always tells me that she wants to leave Korea and live in Europe. That is something that I want to do for definite when I'm finished living and travelling in Asia.

So, my question is this - Should I pursue the girl I work with or should I try harder to make things work with my current girl? There's a lot to think about here with my friends liking my current girl and things being relatively good with her... it's just that I feel a indescribable urge to be with my co-teacher. Is this normal? Do you always think about another girl because she is at the moment unobtainable? What would you do in my situation. I could end up with nothing and alienating my closest ally at my new workplace or I could stay safe and just live a little in regret. Or of course things could be amazing with the new girl if I do decide to lay things on the line and she goes for it.

Thanks for reading. Any advice or opinion is greatly appreciated.

Hey, welcome, appropriate user name too, HAHA.

Sounds like quite the gamble with the co-worker, having a BF and all. How would you pursue that? I am curious.

Your current GF could improve in her English speaking, or could remain the same which could bother you more and more as time goes on.

Feel co-worker out some more and see how that goes, no loss.

Thanks for your welcome and reply.

How would I pursue it? Well, I just get the impression that she's quite into me. We've talked about lots of different things and she told me that she's never been with a non Korean guy. I really think she wants to take a gamble too. I think we're in a really similar place. I would pursue it by being up front with her and splitting up with my girlfriend and tellin gher how I feel. A huge gamble I know but I am considering it.

You're right, I will feel her out and take things as carefully as possible. I will not cheat on my girlfriend. I'm just trying to get my feelings and cards to hand while I have time to think logically about things I guess.