It's a very complicated situation... I'm 22, she's 20, we've been together for about 5 months. She's my first real gf, so that probably makes things even harder for me. I don't know if I love her. I think I do, but than again, it could just be that I'm turned on. When I think about breaking up, I don't know how I could cope with never seeing her again, but then again, it just could be that I got used to her (we spend a lot of time together). Now I think that if we break up, I'll remember her in 10 or 20 years and think, "what if I was still with her". I know I'll probably get over her after some time, but now it doesn't look that way.
The thing is, we talk about getting married. I know we're to young and aren't together long enough, but there definitely is something more between us (I really think so), that makes my situation even harder. And not just in gf/bf (sex) way, she's also my best friend. We could spent hours together just talking, or walking, or stuff like that. I really enjoy her company.
But here come my problems. I'm really turned on by sexy clothing, and she doesn't wanna wear it (she does sometimes, but not often enough for me). It's not just normal "I like girls dressed nicely", it's really extreme. If I was single, I'd rather have an ugly gf who dresses sexy then a really pretty one who dresses ugly. And I don't ask her to dress whorish, just normal girls clothes, like high heels, skirts... I honestly don't see what the big deal is, if she said to me something like "I like when guys wear white shirts", I'd wear white shirt almost every time I'm with her, so I don't understand why she makes a big deal (she dresses the way I like once or twice a month).
Here's more about that from my other thread, if you wanna read the details:
So anyway, I don't know should I break up and look for a girl who will dress better or stay with her.Quote:
I know it's a long question, if you don't wanna read it all, read just first two paragraphs, everything is explained there, later are details (which would also be good if you read, but it's not essential). Anyway, I'm in a relationship and most of the stuff is great, we can talk a lot, have a lot of common interests etc.
But the problem is, she doesn't turn me on. I mean, she does, but she doesn't, it's hard to describe. When we kiss and have sex and stuff like that, that is great. But I have a few fetishes on clothes (especially high heels and miniskirts), and she won't do it. It's not never, she wears it sometimes, but not as often as I'd like (and I'd like heels at least once a week and skirts once a month).
And when we go out, I feel much much nicer and everything is better to me if she is wearing stuff like that. But I can't describe it to her how much i want that, because as soon as I start, she says something like "you don't love me for who I am", which is not true, because if I didn't love her, I'd already break up with her and look for a girl who dresses better.
But still, no matter how much I love her, I just can't help myself and fix my fetishes, they're very strong and won't go. For example, if I was single, I'd rather be with an ugly girl who dresses sexy, then with very pretty girl who dresses badly.
And my girlfriend is pretty, and most of the stuff is great, it's just that she won't dress sexy as much as I'd want her to. And I don't ask her to dress whorish, like very short skirts or to show thong or stuff like that, just decent but sexy, some normal heels and skirt, not to short.
What also makes me feel very bad is when she goes out with her (girl) friends and dresses the way I like (but I'm not with her). Then I almost feel like she's cheating on my (only not with other guys but with clothes).
I thought about letting it go for a while and see if she'll change on her own, but I can't. Last time she wore heels was about a week ago and she'll wear it again probably in one week, so it's two weeks I won't see her in heels and I feel like it's the end of the world, I just can't wait that long. And to make things even worse, she will go out with her friends tonight and she'll dress sexy (she told me) and now I feel like she is cheating on me and I have to wait one week for things to be right again. We will probably go out tomorrow, so I thought of telling her something like "if you could dress that way today, you can also do it tomorrow for me", what do you think?
I'm not really talkative and not very comfortable around girls, so I might have problem finding a new one (I met this one online). So then I think, at least now I sometimes get what I like, if I was single, I would get it never, what if i break up and can't find a new gf for another year or two, so better to stay with her and be happy with what I get. But then again, I could met a perfect girl in two weeks, so maybe I should break up.
Then again, what if I meet a girl who dresses perfectly, but in two months that stuff (clothes) stops being so important to me and other that that, the new girl is nothing special, so I realize I left great girl for a stupid reason.
I just don't know what to do. In one hand, I love her (I think so), and I don't wanna ever lose her, but on the other hand, I just wanna have some fun and be turned on by a girl who will dress really sexy.
