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If you risk nothing, you will get nothing in return. Take a risk, ask him how he would feel if you told him the "L" word. You might be surprised. He might be waiting for YOU because he doesn't want to pressure YOU. Talk about it directly. I did with my gf, and it worked for me.
I agree, I need to put it out there. Be honest with myself and take the risk. However, being my own devil's advocate, one of the questions I ask myself is if I raise the "L" word with him first and he reciprocates, how do I know he isn't just playing me or just telling me what he thinks I want to hear? I know, you going to tell me just to trust him and that in itself is my own work in progress.
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Do you think he is marriage material? Is he that good, mature, dependable of a guy? If not, why waste your time on a long-term relationship? Do you want to get married, or just be life partners? I'm not judging, but more and more people are not getting married, they are just going to be life partners. And they are very happy that way.
He is one of those "good guys", mature and respectful. He has never pressured me into anything and we have been happy not to rush into anything until we have both been ready. Marriage material doesn't come into play in my life. I still believe in marriage however I do not need to be married. He is definitely, as you put it, "life partner" material and can envisage us being us being together when we are old.