Not Sure What This Is... o.O

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16-12-11, 10:46 AM
Seif

Not Sure What This Is... o.O

Hello again LF. :D

I'm 21, in case you're curious.

I met a guy at work (Who's 24, just in case you're curious again) about three months ago and we clicked right away. Long story short, he took me on three pretty awesome dates, and on the third date I met his family. I'm thinking he's pretty serious about dating me. He also got a job offering somewhere else, and lives an hour down south of me. His new job takes him a little ways away from me also, and he'll be training at this job until the end of January. As you can probably tell, we don't have too much time to see each other.

We've seen each other a total of three times since his job started (Roughly a month ago), and each time it's been us sitting in his car and talking simply because that's the only thing we have time to do, but we really want to see each other. I asked him tonight to clarify what exactly was going on with us, since I'm not sure what to call it and he keeps swapping between "we're dating" and "we're not". He said that he really wants to date me and "keep doing what we're doing", but he wants to do it where he can date me "full time". I think that's pretty considerate, but what am I supposed to think of us in the meantime? And also, is there any way we could try and accommodate more time to see each other? We don't have the same off days for now (I'm Wednesday-Thursday, he's weekends).

Thanks in advance. <3
17-12-11, 11:44 PM
bulrush

If he has to work, he has to work. Ask him if he can switch days off, or see if you can. The other thing is, be careful of guys who move too fast and introduce you to their relatives soon. They may be making decisions based only on their feelings, which could end up very badly. Or, in the rare case, they may know exactly what they want, and they found it in you. So they are ready to move fast.

Just be cautious.
19-12-11, 07:32 AM
Seif

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If he has to work, he has to work. Ask him if he can switch days off, or see if you can. The other thing is, be careful of guys who move too fast and introduce you to their relatives soon. They may be making decisions based only on their feelings, which could end up very badly. Or, in the rare case, they may know exactly what they want, and they found it in you. So they are ready to move fast.

Just be cautious.

No, I agree with that. I guess I phrased the post in a bad way. I can take off. He's training, so I'm guessing he can't... I just don't want to seem pushy by saying "Hey, I'll switch my days around so we can see each other." 'cause if he has to do something then I don't want him to feel bad. I understand what you're saying about people moving fast too. He seemed pretty comfortable with what he was doing, but to me it does seem like he knows what he wants (He outlines these kinds of things when I try to discuss them, if that's any indication).