His family hates me which is why we can't be together
Hi guys, I would love to hear any/all responses to this issue but please be kind.
I am a 25 year old girl who has fallen in love with an 18 year old boy. He is not like other 18 year olds- he is mature, sensitive and smart, and after only 6 months we knew it was true love and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. I feel ridiculous even typing that as most people will think this is crazy, but it has been said "the heart wants what the heart wants", and we were very happy together.
There were some small trust issues between us- he had chatted to an ex while we were together, saying sexually explicit things to her, and I had looked on his facebook and found it months after it had occurred. I confronted him about it & told him we couldn't be together if he was going to cheat on me.
He couldn't take this- went crazy and drove all hours of the night to see me multiple times, got caught speeding, turned up at my house completely distraught. I forgave him when I saw how much he wanted to fight for me but his parents and entire family had seen this response and took it as an opportunity to put a stop to our relationship.
They said he has not been acting himself since we've been together (I believe this would have happened with any girlfriend as its his first year at college and away from home; N.B. no other older siblings have ever left home), and that our relationship is inappropriate and they will never support us.
I have met them twice, stayed at their house and we have gotten along well- I have never been anything but nice, respectful and warm towards them. But now his brother screams at my ex down the phone if we're talking and the whole family have actually held an intervention against us being together- took away his phone and computer at one point (christmas eve), and now on new years eve have actually forced him to go away with them so he won't come to see me.
We both still deeply love one another, but he is still dependent on them for financial support and doesn't want to go against their wishes as they have told him he is tearing apart their family and causing all of them nothing but hurt, worry, and stress. Let me just say at this point that I'm kind of awesome! I think I have a lot going for me and it's not like their son has fallen onto the wrong side of the tracks with me!
We are truly in love and have been forced to split when all either of us wants is to see one another again, but they are actively stopping him from allowing any kind of reconciliation to occur. I will regret it for the rest of my life if I don't do something about this now.
I want to go to his house when they come back from holidays and ask to speak with the parents and the family to try to talk some sense into them. I can do that, or I can wait until he comes back to college next year (we are in the same medical school) and see him then. Neither of us can stand to be apart and even the idea that we'll never get to be together again is pure agony- I feel like we're Romeo and Juliet for heck's sake!
Thanks for reading and please leave ANY comment or suggestion on what I should do next- forgetting him is not an option. Lots of love, littletimmy!