Girlfriend gets mad when I ask questions. Is she hiding something?
On two previous occasions my girlfriend has told me that she is going to go to a Bible study. She says that she will come over when finished and gives me a specific time. On both occasions she didn't show up when she said, didn't call, and just showed up a few hours later as if nothing happened and she was just at the Bible study. On one of these events she shows up at my house at 10pm wearing a shirt that shows cleavage and she smells of fancy perfume. She never does either of those things on Sunday when she goes to church so it aroused a little suspicion. I asked her about where she was both times and she says that she was just at the Bible study. Then after pressing her she says that her and some others went out to eat after the study. Any further questions were met with nasty remarks about my insecurity and that I am trying to be controlling. I decided to just let it go and not say anything else about it. Basically, I convinced myself that nothing weird is going on.
Now today, she was to go to a Bible study and then come over at 4pm. When I hadn't seen her by 5pm I decided to call. She says she is just at home doing chores and paying bills and random stuff and that she wasn't ready to go in time to get to the Bible study so they are going toit do it later this evening and that she will come over around 8pm. I told her that she said she would be there at 4 and it is now 5 and that she never called to let me know. I asked if she intended for me to sit here until 8pm wondering what we are doing. She said, "Uggg, I have just been doing stuff around the house." I then asked her about the Bible studies that she goes to. When they are, what time, are they private or group studies and she starts to get angry with me for asking too many questions. She tell me that she has already told me all of those answers before, which she hasn't. I tell her that she shouldn't be so upset because I am only asking questions and that I should be the one upset because she stood me up. At this point she starts yelling about how she isn't mad.... I interrupted her to say that I will not have her yelling at me and trying to make me the bad guy when she is the one who was no call, no show and I hung up.
In my mind when you ask someone a question, especially about where they have been or where they are going, and they immediately get defensive this is because they are hiding something and don't want you to know what they are up to. Is this irrational on my part or does it seem like she is hiding something?
I can't wait to see if she actually shows up later. If she is dressed like a skank then I will know for sure that she wasn't at the "bible study."
