7 years ago i met this guy. we just started to text and e-mail at first and then we met at a party. the way he talked to me on text and e-mail, i thought he liked me but during the party, he ended hooking up with my friend. after a year, he asked me to go out with him but I can still remember that he went out with my friend instead of me. He told me that I was too shy that's why he hook up with my friend (i'm not usually a kind of person who jumps at a guy on the first meeting). So, I told that, yeah, I will go out with him. But I didn't. We lost touch. And after a year again, he contacted me , asking me for the second time to go out with him. But this time, his friend ask me to go out with him as well. So, I was thinking that maybe they're just making fun of me so I said yes to both of them. And then I found out that he really has a girlfriend...so I stick up with his friend until now.
My relationship with his friend is unstable. We broke up few days ago and this guy, asked me out again for the third time. I'm not sure what he really wants from me. He said he likes me but I'm pretty sure he will leave me after he gets laid. He's a jerk and nice at the same time. He doesn't have a girlfriend right now because I do the checking. He tells me about settling down and all that shit. He asked me what I wanted. I told him that, when we're done having sex, we're never going to talk again, as if we don't know each other. Because, he's like that. Love'em and leave'em kind of guy. He asked me if that's really what I want and I said yes because I'm really scared because he's an asshole. (So I have to appear really tough, where in fact, I got nervous around him.) and of course, that's not what i really want. I want him to stick around. I want a stable relationship with him because I like him and if I ever admit it to him. So, instead of hooking up with him, I reconcile with his friend. He said it was cool because it makes "happy". I really don't know what does it means. If he means it's cool as long as I am happy. And right now, we talk like no conversation happened. Like no flirting happens. Nada. As if I'm just someone he knew..well, maybe I am.
I'm not sure if my actions are correct and I'm so confuse right now...what should I do? should I stick to his nice friend or give him a shot ( but I'm really scared coz he is not safe, he's making me sweat)
