I met a guy last summer, I just arrived there and he was supposed to leave the next day. Anyway, we met at a club, started talking, dancing etc and ended up at the beach watching the sunrise. It was really perfect. That morning we went to a bus station, spent two hours together, and he left. We had each other's numbers, added each other on FB and that was it. To be honest, I didn't expect to see him ever again. But the thing is that he kept texting me while I was there, and even when I came back home. Soon after, we started talking on daily basis, chatting, then started using Skype.
But, the problem is that we live in two different continets (he lives in America and I live in Europe). Besides that, he's black, I'm white, he's christian, I'm muslim, he's 25, I'm 22.. We come from very different cultures, but none of that represents a problem to US. Despite all that, he came to visit me last year, 4 months after meeting me. He came all that way on his own. We spent perfect seven days here, he met all my friends, even some family members, we got to know each other pretty well and decided to start a long distance relationship. We agreed to have an "open relationship", because of the circumstances. It's been a year since we met, and things are perfect between us. I was supposed to go visit him in Feb, but with all my exams getting in the way, I couldn't. So I'm planning on going there this July.
So, you're probably wondering where's the problem? Well, the problem is that he has a great job there, makes good money, I have school here, so I cant leave, there's no way we can agree on anything in the future. We take our thing really seriously, his friends and colleagues know he has a gf in another country, we really love each other. We talk two-three times a week, text each other every day. But to me this sounds too good to be true. I think I have found "the one" but of course, it cant be that easy, so we're stuck in this situation. From the beginning I didn't want to get my hopes up, so I never really thought about a future togheter. He mentioned having kids, getting married, and that sounds perfect, but neither of us can make that big of a change and move to different continent. I'm not sure if this is the best love story ever, or just a nice thing that's going to be over in time. I can't imagine not seeing him ever again, and I can't imagine him getting married or something like that.
I tend to be more "optimistic" than "realistic" about our relationship, so I could really use different points of view. Of course, all my friends are being supportive and optimistic too, they see that things are going pretty well. We never fight about anything, we're completely honest with each other, even if it's not what the other one wants to hear. So I'm guessing I have the best relationship possible, but with one big problem.
Besides all that, there's a smaller problem. He works a lot, so he can't travel often, and I have school and exams, so I'm in an even worse situation when it comes to that. We can see each other only 2 times a year, at least for now. And, if things turn out well in the future, and we decide to get engaged or something like that, I know his mother wouldn't be thrilled with him marrying a white girl, and my parents wouldn't be too thrilled either. I live in a pretty conservative country, so things like this dont go unnoticed, at least. Neither of us is too religious, so that's not a problem, but I'm guessing it might become one if we get kids.
Tell me what you think about this, I must admit I'm having high hopes for the future, because somehow all my life I secretly wanted to marry a guy like him. In many ways I think this is meant to be, it can't be coincidence and if it was just a fling, it would be over by now?!
