Advice on what my Ex is at.
So about 10 months ago I met this girl and we really clicked on many levels, sexually we were very compatible, mentally we were very in tune, and we could talk together
for ever, the only problem was we live some distance apart, she has a 6 year old son, and i have an elderly father, who has been in poor health for the last two
years(he's my responsibility because i don't have any siblings).
Although we didn't get to meet as much as we would like, when we did, we got on like a house on fire, and I developed feelings for her that i have rarely felt for any other girl I've gone out with, also i thought the feelings were mutual.
Back in Feb, I changed jobs, and the work I do is demanding, both mentally and time wise. Around this time she mentioned how she'd like to have someone there for
her on a more permanent basis and how nice it is to come home in the evenings and have someone to cuddle up to etc. At that time i said that if she could bear with
me that things would improve and that i was putting in place systems that would mean i could take a break from seeing my dad most weekends(which I've since done in
any case).
After that we met a couple of times and each time things went very well, and I really felt we were getting really close.
However in early April I noticed we were in communication less, and then at the end of the first week she rang me and said she thought it wasn't going to work, distance,
the fact we'd only met so many times in the 10 months, and that she'd felt like this at Christmas especially (at that time my dad was in hospital and her ex hadn't been
able to take their son when he was supposed to) when we'd found it difficult to meet up.
When she called me, I couldn't but accept what she was saying, and i said this to her, that I wished I could tell her things would improve, but that I wasn't going to
make that promise and not be able to deliver on it, that I thought she was the sweetest, most wonderful girl I've met and that I was sorry/disappointed it had come to this, but that I wished her well.
That was the end of the call and so I decided to go "no contact" as i didn't want to pester her or come across as an annoying jerk by calling her or harassing her, and anyway I've never found the pleading/begging etc to work, it just makes you look like a sad sap.
So, about three weeks ago I'm on Linkedin and I check the "Whose viewed you" in my profile, and her brothers name came up. So I know she's been checking me out
(I know its her not her brother) So, I think that's interesting, but I'm still no contact so i don't do anything.
Now, we're still Facebook friends, and from that(i know people say get off your ex's profile if you're NC, but its just too tempting not to!!) I know she's not seeing any one.
So last week I was playing round with my Iphone and the location services and I tagged myself at a local bar along with a girl I know(purely platonic, absolutely no interest in her, or she me, however my ex wouldn't know this, or know the girl) That's all fine until the following day and i'm chatting with a friend of mine on my wall and updating my profile pic and stuff, and next thing my ex is on, liking my pic and messaging me to ask how I am. So i'm trying to be cool and i answer, not really expansive in my
answers, but not being rude either. She's telling me how crap her job is and other stuff, what her holiday plans are, how she's put in for a transfer, etc etc.
So I cut her short and say I've got to go out and that I'll text her later which I don't.
When I get back in, i add some more pics on face book, and immediately she's back on complimenting them and messaging again and I respond civilly and courteously
but not overenthusiastic in any way, except to say I'm good when she asks, and she says I seem really happy, to which I reply " when am i ever not in good form " and she says yeah, you always are" and after a few other messages we say good night.
Over the last couple of days I notice her posting something on her wall close to when i post, or liking my pics or status updates when i put up something funny.
Sooooo.... I'm wondering if i'm reading waaaay too much into this, or is there a chance she may want us to get back together? or is it an attempt to get me in the friend
zone?
I said earlier that we we got on brilliantly in many ways, and we have had some fantastic conversations, on email, over the phone and in person and i'm wondering if this
is where she's missing me, she lives on her own with her son and as he's 5, well, you can imagine the conversation is more limited than one could have with an adult.
As to whether I would go back with her, Well, I would in a heartbeat!!, however I'm not interested in being in the "zone", i couldn't be a shoulder for her to cry on/
Someone to chat to when she feels like it, I love her too much for that to work.
So any ladies(or gents) out there want to give me their views?
Thanks for taking the time to read my post, if anything, it was good to get it off my chest.
Thanks, Vec.
