Girl Still Spending Time With Her Ex-Boyfriend
I dated the same girl for about two years continuously. Things were great the first year and into the second year I began to push her away emotionally and didn't reciprocate much of her affection due to some of my own hangups. She ended up moving away and it first it didn't bother me, but after a little time I began to miss what we had and realize that my life was better with her in it.
I made several trips spanning several hundred miles to see her and show her how much I loved her and wanted to really put in an effort. She told me that she lost the feelings she'd previously had for me. We even went to a counseling session to determine if with a little work these feelings and trust could be reestablished. In the end she decided that she didn't want to be with me and couldn't resurrect those feelings. I left after a visit to her hometown last October depressed and devastated and that was the last time we spent any time together.
I still held onto hope of something changing in her heart until January when I realized she was in a new relationship. Even at that point I still hoped that maybe something would change and she'd have a desire to reconnect with me. In April I drove there to pay my respects at her father's memorial service. I saw her and her boyfriend together there and they appeared to be very happy and into one another.
So I came back home and gave up once and for all although I was still mourning the loss of someone so important to me.
A little over two weeks ago I was driving to work and received a text from her number that basically said hello. I texted back and in the exchange she indicated to me that she missed me and had broken up with her boyfriend because there was no chemistry there. We have been texting since then, and we've hinted around about the possibilty of reconnection but I understand that her emotions are all out of whack right now.
It also appears that she's stilll spending time with this guy that she just broke up with. She says that they were never very passionate and they are just friends now. They've gone to two concerts (in which they drive 3 hours each way together) and out for drinks with co-workers in just the last 7 days or so. The tipping point for me was last night when she posted a picture of the two of them together at the concert on Facebook.
I told her I disagree with her still hanging out with him and question why she even contacted me to begin with. She says that he is absolutely no threat and she is barely attracted to him.
She says that I am highly insecure. I may be a jealous person, but I think it is a rational jealousy. This is a guy she was in a relationship with since January and had sex with!
My question is: Is her behavior appropriate given the fresh breakup? and If you were advising me on whether to entertain a possibility of a future with her what would be your recommendation? Is it a waste of time?
Thanks so much for reading and I appreciate any feedback!
