Help?

As you have read my last post, I was trying to overcome the hurt that my boyfriend was asking for spaces. But, everyday he continue to call me and tell me that he love and misses me, even though hes the one that wanted space.

Last night, he came over to see me and ask if I wanted to go and watch a movie over his house and talk. But, I turned him down. I told him that it not a good idea. I told him that his confusion is killing me..Cause, he wants space but yet he still wants to see me. I told him that it is not fair to me, to continue doing the thing he wants to do.What if after having that space he decide that he is happy without me. Then I am going to be even more hurt. Then he told me that he know I am the right girl for him, except right now he need some time to himself.

Now, he wants to know if I want to go to dinner with him..Which I told him that I am busy and cannot make it..So, he got upset and tell me to call him when I have time for him...
I don't understand...and very confuse over this whole thing...

If I were you I would make myself less available to meet him and I'm sure that then he will come running after you.

Could you answer my post in Breaking Up Forum?

Thanks,
loopylou

Gab,

Have you ever told someone you needed space? If so its because they have other things they need to do that dont involve you.

If I were you, (Ive actually dont this before) is tell him this and ask him what it is he needs to do that doesnt involve you, whether it be feeling smothered, a job, wants to date around, or just another girl - you'll at least get your answer as long as you act like your open to it.

Thank Julie,

I did asked him that. And he seem sincere about not wanting to date or even think about another girl. It appeared that he have some personal problem that he need to deal with. The complication of being involve with wrong people. I hope that is the case. I don't know if I am selffish by only wanting my need.
But, everyday he still call me and tell me he love and misses me.

You know what Gab, I dont know this guy and there is no way of me knowing if he is sincere or not. But if he is sincere, and you truly feel like he's worth it, be there for him. Ask him if you should date around. If he says yes, then go date. If he says no, then you have to explain to him that in order to compromise, you need to understand WHY he needs space. Truly.

If I wanted space, but truly wanted a guy there, I would at least share with him my personal problems. If I dont find he needs to know, then maybe I could live without him after all..

Think about it.