Hi. I've been in a relationship for 2.5 years. It's been good, both passionate and exciting. I'm 45 and with two failed marriages behind me. I know this is going to sound corny but this girl has had a profound effect on me.
Things have been good between us although the relationship was never official. People saw us as friends. It was her wish we kept things to ourselves.
She has three wonderful children and came out of an abusive relationship two years before we met. She is 36years old.
I noticed she was getting a little down a few weeks ago and asked if I could help. She said no giving reasons as the kids problems with her ex etc as her reasons.
I pointed out to her that if she wasn't happy with anything with us then she just had to say. I do love her and if I was in any way making her down and we couldn't work it out I would part on amicable terms.
She gave me a cuddle and said no it's not me.
A week later she said she was feeling down and needed some space. I said ok. She said it had nothing at all to do with me.
I was concerned for her. It was the first time she had not involved me in her problems. I was always the
Shoulder for her.
I sent a message each day just saying hi hope your ok etc to let her know I care. She never replied to any. Then one day on my way home I phoned to see if she needed any groceries etc. she lives in the sticks and this was something I always did. She didn't reply and I was close to hers so just knocked at door. She was in but would not come to door. I left a text saying I called to which she replied " don't come round here uninvited it pisses me off".
That shocked me. Bearing in mind what we had together she was very hurtful by not at least opening door to me.
I asked her what the problem was. She didn't answer the message until much laying saying she was depressed and needed time out from everyone not just me.
I accepted this but a few days later called at her mums to drop something off. The atmosphere was awkward and her mum started going on about how I was acting with her was not normal and I should stay away.
She doesn't know we wee intimate as does anyone else. She gave an impression her daughter was tired of me.
I was devastated to hear this. What we had was always on her terms. I was there if she wanted me there. I did all I could for her and the kids. We had a good thing I thought.
I sent an email as I was wanting to know what the hell was going on.
I was not rude or angry.
I just said I was in a position where I was made to feel the problem is me.
I also explained I needed to know how she felt and would respect her decision.
I do love this woman but if I'm upsetting her or making her down for some reason then I should end.
She has replied yet. Almost a week.
To cut me off totally really does hurt. No one knows what we had so doesn't see things as I do.
I really need to know what people think my best option is.
I have tools etc at hers and need to get these but I'm a little scared of contacting her after the meet with her mum.
