I love this girl and she fall in love for someone she hardly knows...

Hi All, Its quite a long question here... Your answers might help me... Please read it all...

Im 20 years and i love this girl who i know for 10 months... we have been together very well, thou we didn't have had this BF/GF tag on but we were together as normal couples...

So last week 8th July my and this girl lets call her S... So i and s were going for a trip to Pattaya Thailand with my best friends.. Three guys.. So we were 4 guys and a girl.. The flight went fine and first night but from second night she asked me to leave her room like around 10 pm where before we usually stay till long... she started avoiding me, i was just like an idiot alone when we go out for deep sea diving or where ever.. She just stick to one of my best friend, Not giving me time.. i asked her many times what happened, she changes topic and stuff... this happened entire week... So on Thursday, we had a plan to go to some island in Pattaya but got canceled due to rain... i asked her if she wants to go out nearby but she refused and tell me that she is sleepy... i was fine with that, after few min my bestfriend Jay was in my room, he just got up and was leaving i asked him where is he going to he just didnt answered me properly, telling me just for a walk alone... I dont know why i had a feeling that S will go with jay so i just stood at the window looking at the hotel gate, after few min, i saw them... going together... i was so mad that i cracked the washroom door.. and was shaking... i sent her a text telling her that i hate her, that she told me, she is sleeping but going with jay... they both convinced me that that it was coincidence.. that s was going down to buy beer...

same **** carried on, she kicked me out of her room the same night. It was my birthday on Friday. She did not bother to even wish me... i book one of the most expensive room in Bangkok for us but she refuse to go reasoning that we are here as a group so we should stay together.... i was upset but what could i do...

Next day, Saturday... they day we would be leaving pattaya, she wanted to shop for her friend in the morning i went with here... she was very busy shopping that she left her phone to me.. few min later one of my friend called to ask where are we and when i was done with the call the sms were there... Between S and Jay... jay saying i love you and S replying i love you too... i also read that she telling jay to come over to her room whenever he likes.. but should be careful when leaving room that i might see him going to her room.....

I was angry and i had no idea what to do... i asked her whats wrong with her... she stood there quite... I ran back to hotel, asked Jay what he have done.. he knew very well that i love s a lot... but still he got on her...

They both only know each other for 2 days.. and they clam they are in love... Jays says he dosent know what have had happened.. he is not answering me properly.. nor does S, she says she dont know how this happened... This is not love.... its lust of my bestfriend but i dont know what the hell happened to S... so after i cleared in front of everyone, they were like sitting together, for the 2 hours ride from Pattaya to Bangkok then on the flight... i was just staring at them.. Jay kissed her quite a time.... That hurts alot...

I have been trying to explain to s that its not love.. its juts infatuation or lust but not love... she is not replying me... i have sent plus 200 msg to her and hardly got 2 msg back... she is not wanna to meet me not to talk...

Guys,, i dont know what to do... i love this girl alot.... how can she fall in love with someone in just two days and to someone who she dosent know well....

Please let me know what should i do???????

Ouch dude, ouch. J is not your friend, he is an asshole and don't bother trying to save a friendship with him. S is a skank who goes around behind your back and tells lies to your face.

When you get back from the trip, cut them both out of your life, and if you can't treat them like polite acquiantances. It is likely this flaky girl will try to fix things with you later once her and J fall through...make sure you're ready to put her in her place when it happens.

this is one hell of a situation that i wouldn't want to be in....the fact that you love this girl and she doesn't love you is already the problem...you cannot be willing to try and she isn't...let her go, in fact let them both go and move on with your life...be prepared when she comes crying and ignore her...you deserve much more than that

The girl is not yours. She doesn't owe you anything, let alone an explanation of what she does and who she sees, especially considering your behavior. The reason she is acting so elusive is because YOU ****ING SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF HER. If you were just some brokenhearted old friend, she probably would have sat you down and given you the truth honestly and directly that she likes another guy. You need to calm down and realize you two are just friends, nothing more, before you do something stupid in the future.

I remember in high school there was this crazy asian dude who was obsessed over one of my friends, even though she never gave him any signals she was interested in him. I guess her simple courtesy and unwillingness to hurt the guys feelings, was enough to make the guy think there was something between them. Too make a long story short, when she started seeing another guy, dude went crazy and ended up being forced to leave school. From your post you sound a lot like this guy.

You need to wake up to reality, before your anger and delusion cause you big problems.

Super ouch , that girl is not for you. Just move on, If she loves you then she should show it in the first place.

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Originally Posted by UdoKier [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

The girl is not yours. She doesn't owe you anything, let alone an explanation of what she does and who she sees, especially considering your behavior. The reason she is acting so elusive is because YOU ****ING SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF HER. If you were just some brokenhearted old friend, she probably would have sat you down and given you the truth honestly and directly that she likes another guy. You need to calm down and realize you two are just friends, nothing more, before you do something stupid in the future.

I remember in high school there was this crazy asian dude who was obsessed over one of my friends, even though she never gave him any signals she was interested in him. I guess her simple courtesy and unwillingness to hurt the guys feelings, was enough to make the guy think there was something between them. Too make a long story short, when she started seeing another guy, dude went crazy and ended up being forced to leave school. From your post you sound a lot like this guy.

You need to wake up to reality, before your anger and delusion cause you big problems.

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She may not owe him an explanation, but his friend sure as sh*t does. Friends don't stab each other in the back and lie to their faces.

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Originally Posted by Cerby [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

She may not owe him an explanation, but his friend sure as sh*t does. Friends don't stab each other in the back and lie to their faces.

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The guy is obviously nuts. He is insanely possessive of a girl that is not his gf, has violent reactions over her, tells her he hates her then proceeds to stalk and interrogate her, sends over 200 texts to her when she has only replied to 2. And you know she didn't just leave her phone with him because she was "busy shopping", he obviously swiped it when she wasn't looking. The both of them are probably too scared of his reaction to tell him the truth and know he wouldn't accept an explanation anyway.

The situation started because his friend was willing to go behind his back. No matter how crazy the guy is, the friend is still a dick and his contribution to the now completely screwed situation can't be ignored.

Punch your friend J in the face and never talk to him again. Have you and S been sleeping together all this time? If you have been, then yes she owes you an explanation. It took me a long time...too long maybe...to realize that many people are not our friends and we have to cut them out of our lives. Sorry you were treated this way by both of these people. People suck sometimes and are just selfish. S should have told you she didn't have feelings like that for you anymore and she should not have gone on the trip. No matter how hard it is for you...cut them out of your life. Do not have any contact with either of them. You probably don't really love her anyway...

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Originally Posted by UdoKier [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

The girl is not yours. She doesn't owe you anything, let alone an explanation of what she does and who she sees, especially considering your behavior. The reason she is acting so elusive is because YOU ****ING SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF HER. If you were just some brokenhearted old friend, she probably would have sat you down and given you the truth honestly and directly that she likes another guy. You need to calm down and realize you two are just friends, nothing more, before you do something stupid in the future.

I remember in high school there was this crazy asian dude who was obsessed over one of my friends, even though she never gave him any signals she was interested in him. I guess her simple courtesy and unwillingness to hurt the guys feelings, was enough to make the guy think there was something between them. Too make a long story short, when she started seeing another guy, dude went crazy and ended up being forced to leave school. From your post you sound a lot like this guy.

You need to wake up to reality, before your anger and delusion cause you big problems.

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Okay, that looks somewhat true, but its not like we were just friends before we went to Thailand.. We had things going on, She spent more time with me then her family, we had kissed, touched, and "everything" which usually happens in relationship, just that we did not have anything officially... She isn`t scare, its just that ASSHOLE is letting her not to talk to me..

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Originally Posted by Maple1714 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Punch your friend J in the face and never talk to him again. Have you and S been sleeping together all this time? If you have been, then yes she owes you an explanation. It took me a long time...too long maybe...to realize that many people are not our friends and we have to cut them out of our lives. Sorry you were treated this way by both of these people. People suck sometimes and are just selfish. S should have told you she didn't have feelings like that for you anymore and she should not have gone on the trip. No matter how hard it is for you...cut them out of your life. Do not have any contact with either of them. You probably don't really love her anyway...

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I do wish to punch his face.... the worst thing is that we live in same place... All of us... yes we have been all time...

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Originally Posted by rayazad [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I do wish to punch his face.... the worst thing is that we live in same place... All of us... yes we have been all time...

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take cerby's advice. stay a distance from them from now on.

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Originally Posted by UdoKier [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

The guy is obviously nuts. He is insanely possessive of a girl that is not his gf, has violent reactions over her, tells her he hates her then proceeds to stalk and interrogate her, sends over 200 texts to her when she has only replied to 2. And you know she didn't just leave her phone with him because she was "busy shopping", he obviously swiped it when she wasn't looking. The both of them are probably too scared of his reaction to tell him the truth and know he wouldn't accept an explanation anyway.

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haha nuts, could be, but i had questions which i need answers of... yes she was busy shopping and let her phone to me.. i had no intentions to look her texts but at that time i received a call on her phone of one of our friend asking where are we and when i cut off the phone it was on the sms... first was my text and right below of Jay... telling each other "love you" and asking jay to come over to her room whenever he likes but should be careful of me, they didnt wanted me to see him going to her room.. Hell, it was my birthday night when i asked her to spend night with me she refused... telling me she is sleepy but then she asked jay to be with her...

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Originally Posted by Cerby [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ouch dude, ouch. J is not your friend, he is an asshole and don't bother trying to save a friendship with him. S is a skank who goes around behind your back and tells lies to your face.

When you get back from the trip, cut them both out of your life, and if you can't treat them like polite acquiantances. It is likely this flaky girl will try to fix things with you later once her and J fall through...make sure you're ready to put her in her place when it happens.

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We were back on Saturday night... two days past... yep i have many people telling me to move on and i think its the best to do anyways... i would never wanna see any of them again...

Yeah even the most lovesick fool has to get the message when "his" girl starts making out with another guy right in front of you. Sorry I was so harsh but sometimes a person needs to see in black and white text exactly how he is behaving to the outside world. It sucks you probably have to lose 2 of your best friends because none of you treated each other with common human decency.