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I have recently discovered that my boyfriend has been watching porn.
Is watching porn really a normal guy thing? Shouldn't guys who are in a relationship give up the porn habit? If your woman is readily available, why go elsewhere? Am I wrong for getting upset?
As long as it didnt involve horses or dwarfs, then its perfectly normal for a dude to watch porn, but it usually means his needs are not being met. Have you thought about upping your game in the bedroom department?
Here we go again. porn doesn't replace you, guys are not in love or have any emotion to those girls in the porn, porn is entertainment, guys like to see body parts (boobs, ass) because they are wired to like a variety. they watch it to see the act of sex which enhances their masturbation experience. Yes masturbation is part of a normal sex life and should not be restricted to when you are single....we all do it, women like myself like to indulge in porn as well. I have been told by some of my male co-workers, they just want a quick release and yes men do like to have their alone time because it's something different. Instead of resiting it watch some with him, maybe ask him what fantasies he would like played out, go shopping for kink wear, fuzzy hand cuffs, toys....like the OP said maybe you need to up your game in the bedroom.
As long as it isn't affecting the relationship or as long as he does not continually prefer to watch porn and masturbate rather than have sex for you there is nothing to worry about it.
If you feel there is a problem or he is acting out of character (for example he never used to watch it and now does or his 'habit' has increased) it is best you talk to him. He may be bored with your sex life.
What do you have against dwarfs?! Implying there is something wrong with watching consensual orgies between many dwarfs!?Quote:
Originally Posted by iamaninnocentma [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Racist.
Dont take it so badly but let him know calmly that you are not comfortable with him watching porn. Most guys would be very ashamed of it, so don't be harsh on him. Maybe for a change try watching some porn with him to see what he likes about it.
Guys consider porn as ONLY entertainment. And most are not even fond of it ... just that they cannot resist looking at it if they see a racy image.
I guess it all depends on the person. I'm a girl, and I watch porn. I never had issues at all if my boyfriend were to watch porn. And yes, it's VERY normal for men to watch it.
no you are not wrong for getting upset, but its something you should discuss with him, may be in your sexual life something is messing , such a subject should be quickly discussed within the couple.Quote:
Originally Posted by kaweenallu [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
OP, your insecurities do not match up with reality. Porn does not replace the gf. He might feel guilty for asking you for sex when he wants it more than you do. Or he might want to SEE something different, or try something different, on the computer. It doesn't mean he loves you any less. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you, he wants to leave you, or anything else like that.
Yes you are wrong.
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Chill girl! That's just normal for the guys, what's the matter? Are you upset because you found out that he is used of watching it? Or afraid because maybe he'll be going to apply what he watches then to you? Well, if that will happen then don't let him.