Falling for a foreign girl... help!
Hello,
I know everyone here has probably heard this story a thousand times, but I think I would feel better If I had the opinions of people who are more experienced in this catagory.
First off, my name is Matt and Im your typical 21 yr old college guy. I like to go to parties, hang out, drink, have fun, and all the usual stuff that goes along with it. However, I do feel there is a major separation between me and the majority of college guys in America. I enjoy the "mushy" stuff that most girls do and most guys deny- watching movies, cuddling, kissing, spoiling, and all the other stuff that goes along with that.
Anyway, Im going off topic a bit but now you know a little more about myself.
With that said, ive reached a very interesting point of my life, to say the least.
About 2 months ago I met this girl at a club here in Michigan. We danced a little, then sat down at a table and got to know each other. Turns out she is from Germany in this program called "aupairs" (forgive me If I misspell it). So, after some small talk, we left the club, talked a little more, got her number, and said goodbye (she lives about 20 minutes from the club we were at).
Over the last few months, we have been hanging out alot. We go to the clubs, dance with each other, talk about many things, go to dinner, go to movies, etc.
Now I will admit, that at first I was out for a one night stand, but I guess I got more than I bargained for. I know only a few months is considered a short time frame, but I think im falling in love with this girl and I dont know what to do. Ive dated alot of people in my life, and nobody has even come close to her. She is everything I have ever wanted in a girl - smart, funny, good looking, kind, and most importantly fun to be around.
Just the other night we went out to the clubs and made out like crazy. After that, my mind has been in a whirlwind. Even before then I was having strong feelings for her, but this sent it over the top! I remember what this feeling feels like... Cant stop thinking about her, want to talk to her all the time, feeling lonely when shes not there.
So, theres where I stand. Im falling for a girl that lives in Germany. The main problem is that I really think she likes me just as much as I like her. And thats the problem. I cant have these feelings for someone if I cant have her in the end. I keep telling myself that its possible, because she says that she may stay here in America... but its hard not thinking about it. I keep convincing myself that this fairy tale of being with this girl and having a relationship will come true...
What do I do??? I feel so strongly for this new person in my life. Part of me wants to just say away from her so I dont get attached any further(which i dont even know how that would be possible). But, I just cant bring myself to doing that to her- or me. If you have any advice, guys and girls, it would mean so much if you could just post a comment or two as to what I should do. I have never been in this situation before...
-Matt
