why does my husband close his eyes during sex.

We have been married a while and things have not been good for a while but I am working on things and trying to get back to the way I used to be and be the way we were when we were first together. He used to have his eyes open almost the whole time we were intament but now he hardly has hiS eyes open. One of our problem was that he was obsessed and attracted and loves another women he sometimes works with. He says he knows it is wrong and he is working on it and I am trying to give him the benifit of a doubt and give him what he asks for so he is happy with me and thinks of her less. But I can't help but wonder if he is thinking of her or his porn a lot now since he has his eyes closed a lot. Why is he closing his eyes? Should I worry or is it normal?

Sorry but most therapists do recommend fantasizing during sex.....it's normal for men and women to do it. What goes on in anyone's head is no one's business.

But if he admits he is obsessing, them that shows there are issues in your relationship and he possibly is conveying that he wants an open marriage or experiment by adding another person (threesome). These things that are happening are symptoms of an issue that he is afriad to discuss with you. I suggest couples counseling, to sort through this before it leads to infidelity.

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Sorry but most therapists do recommend fantasizing during sex.....it's normal for men and women to do it. What goes on in anyone's head is no one's business.

But if he admits he is obsessing, them that shows there are issues in your relationship and he possibly is conveying that he wants an open marriage or experiment by adding another person (threesome). These things that are happening are symptoms of an issue that he is afriad to discuss with you. I suggest couples counseling, to sort through this before it leads to infidelity.

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So to add, him closing his eyes during sex is not the thing you should be concerned about. Him admitting to obsessing over women he works with is a big red flag.

Sorry hun but you're definitely ignoring the bigger picture. I would care less about him closing his eyes, some men & women do like to fantasize. You're husband is attracted to other woman or women. No matter what you do or say won't stop him from being attracted to her. That's the power of lust. Detroys families b/c we don't think rationally when we're under it's influence. Seek counseling immediately please.

Maybe he is fantasizing about Kim Kardashian. ;) Maybe he is trying to think about something else so he doesn't come too quickly. Maybe somebody has criticized his O-face in the past. Here's an idea: why don't you ask him? Also, maybe you two could try some other position once in a while, like doggy-style.

Maybe he is fantasizing about some models or may be about some actresses.

May be he is just fantasizing about you only.

Don't be so worried. You will eventually find out. Enjoying your sex is more important.

Oh, it is not something to worry about. Some people just feel better in this way and can enjoy it more.

Its stupid to see him doing it while you was having sex, and then log on to ask us (strangers) why is your husband doing that.

Is it not him that you need to ask? my oh my.

Maybe he's focusing on enjoying the other senses.

You say he loves another woman, and you are worried about him closing his eyes during sex?

I think you are worried about the wrong thing.

you already know the answer to your own question...


raverboy

im pretty sure he be watching porn? lol

Maybe he thinks of one of the other women, but you can't be sure.
You could ask him how it happened, that he now closes his eyes so hard.