I have a problem I am just not able to find a solution to , and it's been haunting me for years. Way back in1965, when I was just 16 years old, I met a girl of 14 who I absolutely worshipped. We had so much fun together all that spring and summer, but later that year we had an argument and I said some hurtful things which brought the relationship to an end. I bitterly regretted saying what I'd said, but the damage was done and we never got back together again. I have never seen that girl since, but the guilt I felt at the ending of that relationship I still carry with me to this day. In February 2010 I found out that the husband of this girl, or rather woman, had sadly died. I felt that I needed to express my condolences and contacted her father asking if he would be kind enough to pass on my sympathy on her sad loss. A short time later her father got back to me and told me that his daughter remembered me but, in her words, " she didn't want to bother." I have bowed to her wishes and not got in touch with her, and I now know that I never will. I think about this girl/woman all the time, perhaps because I still carry the guilt of the break up of the relationship all those years ago. I am happily married and there is no question of my marriage being at risk because I am not looking to revive the past, but I would just like some sort of closure after all these years. If anyone can provide me with advice I really would appreciate it.
