Do we have a future? Why cant men say what they want!!
Hiya!
Im new to this forum but have found myself in a sticky situation so i decided to post on here.
Basically i have been seeing this guy 4 10 months nw. He was the one who spoke to me and pursued me until i eventually gave in after 7 months n took hs numba.
At first everything was great. We work near 1 another so used 2 meet up in the morning, at lunch n afta work.
But 3 weeks into seeing each other he told me tht he has a 7 year old son with his ex who is an english girl. I am pakistani n so is he.
Ignorantly, i still carried on seeing him.
A few months later we had both fallen deeply for each otha.
A few months later and he started to distance himself from me by seeing me less. I askd hm why and he eventually told me tht his sisters have been having a go at him for always coming home late. But then he went on to tell me tht his mum and dad have both passed away and thts why his older sisters have so much say over what he does as they brought him up. His uncle had promised his dad tht he wud get hm married to a girl of their caste.
Coz we thought we didnt ave a future, we decided to end it. Bt tht neva lasts long n we r drawn back to each otha lyk magnets. This tends to make us stronger as a couple aswell.
The way i feel about him, iv neva felt with any1 else and its the same 4 hm.
He has said tht if it was not 4 his baggage and family situation then he knows we wud be married by now n id be pregnant, lol.
He is so respectful, caring, considerate and a gud influence on me. Btw, he is 35 n im 25..tht wud be an issue tht my family wud play on. Iv neva bin as happy as i am with hm n its the same 4 him.
I want to marry hm n so does he bt we ave so much to think about coz my family wud neva agree with his baggage, age, caste, etc. Also his family dont know about his son so i guess he is apprehensive that if we become public knowledge, then his jealous ex will reveal all to his family who in turn would disown him.
Iv also told him tht he cant keep it a secret foreva but he would rather brush it under the carpet coz he is scared of his familys reaction. He says that his extended family wud b so happy if they knew of his son coz they wud love to play on his faults.
His ex also knows about us and so has stopped his contact with his son coz she is the jealous type n stil loved him bt think she hates hm nw. Btw, tht pregnancy was neva planned n she was supposed to be on the pill.
His uncle is also very old n sick so he cnt tel hm about us at mo coz it myt finish hm off.
Do u think we have a future? Othas opinions wud b helpful. Thanks! x
Even any advice on how i could push things forward with him wud be appreciated. x
